Sex Rutt

msanyang9

Hi Y'all,

So Hubby and I have been in a rut for a while In the past 9 months,we got married, he started a new, more demanding job, we moved into a new home, my father passed away and his grandfather passed away. Needless to say, with everything that's been going on, sex has been on the back burner. Last month I got tired of the rutt and have made it a point to have more sex. We are having more sex(once a week) but the problem is it's just it's just ok sex.

So my question to you lovely ladies (and gents if there's any out there) is what do y'all do to get the fire going again.

faith12186@aol.com

Hi there. I know how you feel to an extent. My husband and I have been moving around a lot for our job and a lot of other things which has made having "us time" almost non existent. We just moved again and the place that we are working is very slow so we don't have to be there all the time. I told my hubby that we both need to make more of an effort to spend time together. I have been planning little outings for us. I also made it a point to cook dinner as often as possible (we had been eating out a lot). I think it's the little things that can add up and turn into something special. Every marriage is different. You know what works for your hubby. Do things that you know he will appreciate. Make sure the lines of communication are open. It took me a long time to realize that sometimes he has no idea that I am thinking or feeling what I am. The only way either of us knew what the other was thinking or feeling is if we talked about it. We have been married a year and a half and we are really just now getting to enjoy each other's time and company. I hope it doesn't take as long for you and your hubby. It's not an easy thing to go through. 

Flowerstar1023

What about going on a date night? Do something for just the two of you. It's no wonder that things have slowed down - you've had some seriously major stressors (both good and bad) in the last 9 months.

What did you guys do together before you got married? Consider going out for a night and not thinking about the sex at the end of the night. Feel sexy by wearing something you might not usually, trying a new perfume, or wearing some new panties.  

 Also, have you guys talked about the rutt? If you're worrying about it during or before having sex, that makes it harder to really enjoy it and be more adventurous!