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I guess this is where I belong now-Intro
Hi ladies,
So just a brief intro mh and I have been having issues for about the past 8 months, it got seriously bad and surreal about a month and a half ago. Anyways mh is intending on filing for divorce. We have been to counseling and I still keep tellling him (like an idiot) I guess that I am willing to work on things if he wants to but he does not see how things would change between us hence he does not want to work on us, and I can't work on it for the both of us. So just some questions/advice. When does this actually become real? Everything just seems surreal right now...like I am in a constant state of shock and sadness. I know that time is the only real thing that will help, but what helps in the meanwhile? We have a house together that we are going to have to sell and I have no idea how long that will take. Also not that I am there at all but is it ok to date while separated or do you have to wait until officially divorced? Any other advice/tips on how to make it through this is much appreciated because everyday is a struggle. Thanks ladies!!
Re: I guess this is where I belong now-Intro
Have you thought of getting counseling for yourself? Not marital counseling, but counseling to help you get through this transition? I think the money would be better spent on YOU than on the marriage if your H isn't committed. It does take two to make a marriage work.
I don't think you are in a position to date anyone right now! You need time to mourn the end of your relationship.
Your H might end up dating right away, but that is his choice and his life.
Hi, Yellow. This place is kind of desolate since the beginning of the month; most of us found a new home here:
http://pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=so
Come on over! We'd love to have you, and that board is much busier than this one.