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Just Moved In--Stuff Everywhere....
Just moved to a lovely apartment with my fiance. Quite happy here. We have our little baby Corgi puppy to amuse us, and his buddy from college is crashing here until his apartment becomes available in a few weeks.
Basics: 3 bed, 2 bath, laundry room of glorious size and storage room, kitchen, living, etc. So on.
So the guys did all the heavy lifting. And I was very grateful of that. As one does, we just sort of piled stuff randomly (and mostly in the living room) so that the UHaul could be returned without incurring a fee.
Then we all went to sleep. Next morning I get up (early riser) and I shift furniture and boxes until the living room is at least in the order it should be in and then the boxes got stacked.
They started work almost right away. I'm unemployed. So it's been left to me to set the house up. And here's the kicker for me: they aren't helping. I know it's tiring to come home from work and you just want to sit. But I can't do this alone. And when they do help, each individual, singular, solitary item is pulled from it's box with the same question "What do I do with this?" It's a can of beans. Like the previous can of beans, put it in the pantry. I am flattered they want to make sure everything goes where I want--but seriously.
I haven't yelled or commented. But they did eventually stop helping and decided to play video games upon return home from work. Also not really okay. We're not done here. Have some initiative. Don't wait for me to ask.
Is this how it's going to be? Am I doomed to unpack this whole apartment alone? And if so, where do I even start?
TY, needed to rant. Advise appreciated.
Re: Just Moved In--Stuff Everywhere....
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I moved into my house 6 years ago and I'm pretty sure there's an unpacked box or two!
I started with the first floor of the house, rooms that visitors could see if they just dropped by. So all boxes in the living room and kitchen got unpacked first, whether they were for those two rooms or not. The rest of the rooms got unpacked as we needed things/as I got fed up with disorganization of things.
DH helped where he could. He did the entire basement as that is kind of his room. We both work though, so I can't give you any advice on how to get him to help. I'd just assume that most of the unpacking will fall on you as you do have more time at home than he does. Maybe make achievable goals? Like "I'll put away five boxes and then go do something else" so it doesn't seem like an insurmountable task? That's the only way I get through house work every weekend.
Good luck!
I would like to give my suggestion to those who are looking to move into their new home or have already moved, You need not to bother about packing or unpacking of your heavy goods as there are various movers and packers companies available in the local market. These companies also provide the cleaning services. They take all the responsibility to unpack your all the goods with care and clean your home with cleaning equipments so that you could enter in the house which looks like heaven.
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I know it's frustrating to do it all by yourself, but that's probably what they assume is going to happen unless you discuss it with them. My husband and I just moved into our first apt and he currently works 40 hours a week and I work 5-10. So, other than the large furniture and the initial moving in boxes, I unpacked everything. It seemed like the fair thing to do and I'd rather hang out with him when he gets home from work instead of having him unpack too. I'd say it's a little different for you dealing with your fiance's friend's stuff, but if you want either of them to do any unpacking, you should probably clearly say so.
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When we moved into our house, I was living here alone except on Wednesday nights and weekends because he hadn't found a job here yet and his current one was 2 hours away. So I hear you on unpacking alone. Though, he was more than willing to help when he was home.
I would talk with him and have a discussion on what you both think he and your friend can help with. He does work all day which does put most of it on you, but I don't think you should have to do it alone.