soon to be X says he no longer believes in marriage

Mari-L

My soon to be X says he no longer believes in marriage. This is the 3rd time he says this to me. He says he wants to be alone. He says he doesnt want children or marriage. I find this convenient as now he is do e with his masters and I basically worked full time while he was a student. He says it's him and not me. That only makes it feel like it is me. I just need help how to survive this. He already spoke to a divorce lawyer. 

SueBear

Now's the time for YOU to contact a lawyer.  If you feel used, maybe you can get spousal support or at least re-imbursement for the expenses you paid while he was at school.

 

Mari-L

Thank you, yes i am going to meet with a lawyer.Maybe he did use me...

 

I am also seeking counseling. This is so hard, so many emotions at once. I never expected for him to end it. He basically detached himself and siad he wants to be alone.I don't understand... now i just need to deal,  I cannot wait until all this is over.

Sapphire70

not sure if this is relevant in your case, but spouses often detach from the marriage when there is another person they are attaching to instead

http://survivinginfidelity.com/

GBabyMom

SueBear:

Now's the time for YOU to contact a lawyer.  If you feel used, maybe you can get spousal support or at least re-imbursement for the expenses you paid while he was at school.

 

My ex husband tried to get reimbursement for the expense during my grad education and he was told it is considered a gifting of the marriage. 

MintChocoChip

GBabyMom:

SueBear:

Now's the time for YOU to contact a lawyer.  If you feel used, maybe you can get spousal support or at least re-imbursement for the expenses you paid while he was at school.

 

My ex husband tried to get reimbursement for the expense during my grad education and he was told it is considered a gifting of the marriage. 

This depends on the state you're in.  Get a lawyer.