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Married almost a week and feel a little sad!
Hi Everyone,
I got married on 5/26/12. We have lived together for 4 years and already have a house together. Things are great. BUT, I am so sad that the wedding itself is over. The day was perfect and I felt better than I had in a while. I feel like I am having withdrawls from the planning etc. Did anyone else feel like this after their wedding? I thought I would be relieved when it was over but it's actually the complete opposite.
Thanks!
Kim
Re: Married almost a week and feel a little sad!
What helped for us, was we directed a lot of energy into planning date nights or weekend-getaways. I started to work on our social calendar more, to at least have "options" of things to do many weekends, such as annual festivals in neighboring towns in an hour-drive radius. You can go to each town's main website and there should be a calendar of events and you can note on your social calendar: "Chili Cookoff", "Movie in the Park", etc etc. However, make it clear that you're doing this research so that you have options - not that you are really "planning your life away". It's fun to have a weekend coming up knowing you can do something, but don't have to, and if it's an annual event, you can always wait to do the event another year.
(Some people focus the energy after a wedding into having a baby, but many wait a few years to just enjoy time together married and traveling.)
I agree with PP. You definitely need to find somethng to channel your energy into. Though it didn't happen for me, all that hype before the big day can certainly lead to a let down feeling. I was just so happy it was over, so I could focus on my new "normal" married life!
First Congratulations !! I can't say I agree with your feelings as I too was so glad the day and stress was done with BUT your feelings are normal. It's call post wedding blues and some newlywed couples go through it. You're not the only one. http://voices.yahoo.com/post-wedding-depression-transitioning-into-marriage-107778.html?cat=41
You're probably experiencing withdrawel from the hype and anticipation of the day is now over and transition into married life. It's official now.
Good luck to you!
I didn't stress with the wedding whatsoever and enjoyed planning it. I didn't get nervous until about an hour before! I was so at ease with everything. We are getting back into the swing of our normal life but as I said, I just really enjoyed planning it all and handling it all. We definitely have a lot of other things to occupy our time especially with the house and now summer entertaining here but just felt the day was here and gone in a blink of an eye and felt a little sad. I know I'll get over it shortly....especially after going back to work next week with back to the norm.
Thanks all! Have a good night!
ps....hmmmm maybe a new career if I loved it so much???? : ) Always keeping my options open and keep the wheels turning.
I agree with Lindy2be..we were also married on May 19 and I have an itch..i guess because of the excess energy, but I dont miss the wedding planning..by the time the wedding rolled around..I was sooo burnt out...we havent gone on a honeymoon yet..so Im looking forward to that...and I just emailed my photographer I was like..#cough, cough# #gasp# I think im dyin..in..need..of..photos...lol..were also waiting on our video..everything was such a whorlwind..I am excited to see every aspect that I missed..
I was happy mine was over, way too much stress to make everyone happy. Looking back on it I wish we just got dressed up , gone down to the courthouse, and then had a nice night out.
I get where your coming from though. You spend years and thousands of dollars planning this one thing and then it's over so quickly. Look to the next goal! I suggest finding an activity that you and DH can do together. Don't forget to enjoy the honeymoon phase!
Get a hobby.
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