Is this a big deal?

AlottaPunani

First and foremost, I'm writing under an AE, because I'm not ready to put this on under my well-known regular screenname.

Backstory: My husband and I have been married for a while, and it's starting to get a little stale.  One day I was on Craigslist, and half jokingly, I look at the personals.  I was reading them, when one caught my eye.  It talked about sharing cocktails, rainy nights, not being a crunchy granola, intelligence, and passion.  I couldn't stop thinking about that ad for days, and I finally ended up writing back to the ad.  I'm not a great writer, and didn't think I'd get any response back.  

But I did.

So we arranged for a blind date, and talked about all the nasty stuff we were going to do that night.  

I get there, and sitting at the table, WAS MY HUSBAND.  WTF???  It was HIS ad in the paper!  I was pissed.  He was stepping out on me!  We ended up making a night of it (a hot night I might add), but the more that I think about it the more upset I get.  Should I just forget it, because I met up with him, or should I kick him to the curb for writing the ad in the first place?

Ashley_Matea

Well, I think it's something y'all deff need to talk about. I wouldn't say kick him to the curb or be TOO pissed at him b/c after all, you were on there for the same purpose. You too were looking for a little excitement/or whatever......and you even wrote "half-jokingly". So I mean, it's good y'all made a fun night outta it....but you should DEFF discuss why you both were there. What's lacking, what should or could y'all do differently, is this the 1st time he's gone on a date, etc etc. Good luck!

DarthNBJenni

I think you should sign his work email account up for gayp0rn in retaliation! 

heyhelloally

Its a crappy thing he did yes. But I don't see how you can be that upset when you were "stepping out" on him too. What if that wasn't him at the table? What would you have done on this "Blind Date"? You were going there to meet someone that was not your husband to connect with. I think you are just as much at fault as he is. So I do not see how you can be pissed when you were doing the exact same thing. I believe they call that being a hypocrite.

RhymeReason

Are you married to Rupert Holmes by any chance? And do you like Pina Coladas?

NewEnglandWifey

AlottaPunani:

First and foremost, I'm writing under an AE, because I'm not ready to put this on under my well-known regular screenname.

Backstory: My husband and I have been married for a while, and it's starting to get a little stale.  One day I was on Craigslist, and half jokingly, I look at the personals.  I was reading them, when one caught my eye.  It talked about sharing cocktails, rainy nights, not being a crunchy granola, intelligence, and passion.  I couldn't stop thinking about that ad for days, and I finally ended up writing back to the ad.  I'm not a great writer, and didn't think I'd get any response back.  

But I did.

So we arranged for a blind date, and talked about all the nasty stuff we were going to do that night.  

I get there, and sitting at the table, WAS MY HUSBAND.  WTF???  It was HIS ad in the paper!  I was pissed.  He was stepping out on me!  We ended up making a night of it (a hot night I might add), but the more that I think about it the more upset I get.  Should I just forget it, because I met up with him, or should I kick him to the curb for writing the ad in the first place?

1- I get the feeling this is MUD- probably by an old "regular" who needs some attention but can't admit they are back on the Nest

 

2- If this is real....WTF? YOU were browsing the personals, setting up dates and  "stepping out" too so you have ZERO right to be pissed!

srgw

NewEnglandWifey:

AlottaPunani:

First and foremost, I'm writing under an AE, because I'm not ready to put this on under my well-known regular screenname.

Backstory: My husband and I have been married for a while, and it's starting to get a little stale.  One day I was on Craigslist, and half jokingly, I look at the personals.  I was reading them, when one caught my eye.  It talked about sharing cocktails, rainy nights, not being a crunchy granola, intelligence, and passion.  I couldn't stop thinking about that ad for days, and I finally ended up writing back to the ad.  I'm not a great writer, and didn't think I'd get any response back.  

But I did.

So we arranged for a blind date, and talked about all the nasty stuff we were going to do that night.  

I get there, and sitting at the table, WAS MY HUSBAND.  WTF???  It was HIS ad in the paper!  I was pissed.  He was stepping out on me!  We ended up making a night of it (a hot night I might add), but the more that I think about it the more upset I get.  Should I just forget it, because I met up with him, or should I kick him to the curb for writing the ad in the first place?

1- I get the feeling this is MUD- probably by an old "regular" who needs some attention but can't admit they are back on the Nest

 

2- If this is real....WTF? YOU were browsing the personals, setting up dates and  "stepping out" too so you have ZERO right to be pissed!

I agree with this. Either that or he has a right to be equally pissed with you.

Leigh2222

This sounds pretty far-fetched:

(a) the fact that you happened to answer an person ad that turned out to be your husband.  Good story?  Sure, fictional story.

(b) the OP is mad at the husband for stepping out, when she is doing the same thing.

IF this is a true story, thank CraigsList for adding passion back into your life, and both agree to turn a new leaf in the relationship and to remain transparent and faithful.

but probably MUD

TarponMonoxide

AlottaPunani:

First and foremost, I'm writing under an AE, because I'm not ready to put this on under my well-known regular screenname.

Backstory: My husband and I have been married for a while, and it's starting to get a little stale.  One day I was on Craigslist, and half jokingly, I look at the personals.  I was reading them, when one caught my eye.  It talked about sharing cocktails, rainy nights, not being a crunchy granola, intelligence, and passion.  I couldn't stop thinking about that ad for days, and I finally ended up writing back to the ad.  I'm not a great writer, and didn't think I'd get any response back.  

But I did.

So we arranged for a blind date, and talked about all the nasty stuff we were going to do that night.  

I get there, and sitting at the table, WAS MY HUSBAND.  WTF???  It was HIS ad in the paper!  I was pissed.  He was stepping out on me!  We ended up making a night of it (a hot night I might add), but the more that I think about it the more upset I get.  Should I just forget it, because I met up with him, or should I kick him to the curb for writing the ad in the first place?

If this isn't MUD this sounds like an updated version of that craptastic number called "The Pina Colada Song." Haha.

StarrySarah

http://www.lyricsdepot.com/rupert-holmes/escape-the-pina-colada-song.html

jnjmommy0609

I am guessing your bored

EastCoastBride

NorthernLghts:

Are you married to Rupert Holmes by any chance? And do you like Pina Coladas?

Took the words out of my mouth!

 

 

catmiss9

I think the Pina Colada song couple went home to live happily ever after. After all, people in glass houses.

Mrs.Rad888

At least you know you're still compatible.

eav2c

LOL

Talynted

I completely agree with Ashley_Matea. You both should seek marital counseling. And no, you can't get mad if YOU were going to meet up with anyone from a personal ad. You can't even be upset with him for doing it first because you were just a few days later than he was. Looking for a connection with someone else... I don't think you two should forget it either. I definately urge couples therapy to get your issues out in a safe environment

CarbolicSmokeBomb

I believe this was intended to be funny MUD, not attention seeking MUD....