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Married for almost a month <3
Yup. Finally did it. Finally got married.
So far, I've dealt with a grumpy husband, who's only happy if he's fishing or doing something with his boat. And feeling like I do nothing right simply because he's always complaining about everything. It'll get better, I'm sure. Well, at least I hope so anyways.
But on the bright side, I got a job, we have our own house and land now. Dark side of that, his mom has to live here as long as she wants and doesn't have to pay bills if she doesn't want to.. JOY..
OH! And as soon as I get the money, I get to have a guinea pig.. 
..sorry for randomness of this post.. I had no aim with it, only to share that I was married..
Oh, and do people here do intro post? If so.. I'll have to do one of those.. I've never used the forums much. ...well at all..
Re: Married for almost a month &lt;3
How did that happen? And you agreed?
The house and land came from his grandmother and we had to agree to let her live here as long as she wants unless she finds a boyfriend, then she has to go live with him. And yes, she does have income. And I spoke with my husband today as towards his grumpiness, and he's stressed with all the bills and barely making enough to pay them and all the other stresses his mother provides. She's not the easiest person in the world to live with..
And I'm 18 years old, and my husband is 20. We've been living together for most of our relationship due to a situation that came up and I had nowhere else to live.But they've been in love for almost a whole year!
ETA: But it sounds like a match made in heaven.
You sound 12
At first I couldn't believe you had such a vague living agreement with your MIL. But then I read you are 18. Unfortunately you're choosing the route of learning things the hard way. I'm not trying to be mean - but choosing to live with an MIL is not worth it no matter how nice the house or land.
Whose name is on the deed? Your husband's? I think you and your DH should consult a lawyer and say that you and DH want to live on the land without the MIL, and ask what steps need to be taken to make that happen.
The only reason my husband even wants the land and house is because it was his grandpa's and it's basically the only thing he has left of him. And currently we're looking for an apartment closer to where we work since we both work an hour and a half away, plus we can't stand living with his mother anymore.
It's written nowhere she HAS to live here, but that was the condition his grandmother gave, and his grandma means the world to him, so he's going to do what she wants him to do. And plus if we were to kick her out, like I want so desperately to do because she's making my life miserable, then it would send the whole entire family into a war..
..And I honestly don't know why I even try sites connected to TK, everyone so rude since I am younger than everyone else and the fact I've only been with my husband for almost a year. Everyone's so judgmental, thought it would have changed since now we're married... Yeah, I don't feel like dealing with anymore hate, so I'm going to just go ahead and delete my account.
Seriously, you get puppies and rainbows from people IRL, and it's good strangers online even take the time to try to give you advice, even if it comes off blunt. We don't beat around the bush because we're trying to give it to you straight.
Deleting your account - yes, something an 18-year-old would say. You would do well to get thicker skin and take advice with a grain of salt. Feel free to still be a lurker and read posts of others who have similar living conditions (with MIL, sometimes with land involved). I've actually read a post very similar to yours a couple years ago. I've even lived with my MIL before. Not worth it and ending the living agreement (even if it's messy) is better than just trying to tolerate it.
Things don't magically change when you get married. Problems you had before....still there! People will still judge you for getting married at 18. It's up to you to prove them right or wrong.
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You shouldn't delete your site because you have judgemental individuals on here. You make your own decisions, you two love each other and chose marriage, clearly you are with whom you want to be with. Some of these people on here should be ashamed of themselves for being so judgemental. You have to learn from your mistakes in life and keep on going, you DO NOT have to explain yourself to anybody. As far as your in law being there you and your husband should talk it over and come with an conclsuion I understand that is your husband's mother, you don't have to be miserable in your own home.
Isn't this MUD? The whole scenario is ridiculous and her name is AprilFools.
I hope it is. Most people don't know their *ss from their elbow at 18. And saying you "finally got married" after dating for year makes me cringe.
Wow, with that attitude you are destined to fulfill what people's opinions of "young brides" are.
Go ahead, avoid issues and take the 'easy way out'.....if that is your way of dealing with life then you WILL be divorced in the next 5 years because you will clearly not be able to handle being married!
Marriage doesn't magically solve life's hardships...and if you got married because you thought it would "make everything different" you are in for one heck of a surprise!