Thank you notes

catmiss9

Are these becoming a lost art? Thoughts, please.

lily_721

Not in my family.  We send thank you notes for all gifts.  It takes only a few minutes to let someone know that you appreciate their gift and thought. 

My boys each have their own sets with their names on them.  Their thank you notes go out within days of the gift.  My rule of thumb, the thank you card should be received before the check is cashed. 

I know that many people don't do them but I do.  And I appreciate receiving them.

NewEnglandWifey

lily_721:

Not in my family.  We send thank you notes for all gifts.  It takes only a few minutes to let someone know that you appreciate their gift and thought. 

My boys each have their own sets with their names on them.  Their thank you notes go out within days of the gift.  My rule of thumb, the thank you card should be received before the check is cashed. 

I know that many people don't do them but I do.  And I appreciate receiving them.

 

Our family also takes thank-you notes seriously- it is a very nice tradition!

RhymeReason

I hope not! Although one or two of the weddings I have been to in the last few years I haven't recieved a thank you note. One couple took a year to send us one and I was pretty surprised to get it because it had been so long.

Then again, I still send paper thank you notes for interviews.

Leigh2222

For formal events like bridal showers and weddings, I think a mailed paper thank you note is still the norm.

Otherwise, I will send a nice email or a phone call for a thank-you. 

My brother's future MIL goes a little overboard with thank-you cards I hear.  She will even send a thank-you card, thanking someone for sending her thank-you card.  I get nervous of these types because I feel like they are keeping score on if a thank-you card was sent or not, and how soon.

I sent thank-you cards to wedding gifts a couple of weeks after my wedding, knowing I had a year, and still I had my MIL make a snide comment like, "Ohhh, I don't know why you sent your thank-you cards so soon after the wedding."  That confirmed to me that I knew nothing I did would please her, and that I should always do things my own way.  (I did not mail out the thank-you cards quickly to please her.)

nikki2601

I mail notes instead of cards for birthdays and other events. Sometimes I send notes just because.

sneetches

I hope not. It is just good manners. If I send a gift to someone and do not receive a thank you - verbal or written - I don't send any more gifts to that person

srgw

IMO it is becoming a lost art. Right up there with rsvping to events.

I was always told people had a year after the wedding to give you a present, but the bride & groom have 1 month to get thank you cards out. I've always thought that was a little extreme personally. One of those weeks they're on their honeymoon and if they're anything like H and I, they're also moving into a new place in that first month of marriage. We got our thank you cards out within 6 months and I thought that was us doing a good job. (H was the hold up, he dragged his feet writing to his family/friends.)

 

mrs_bkf

Yes.  Nobody sends thank you notes anymore.  I don't care if it comes in the mail, email, text, phone call.  But something would be nice.

It's so frustrating when the kids I send birthday and Christmas gifts to don't acknowledge them.  I can't stop sending gifts to the kids.  It's not their fault their parents didn't teach them.  Doesn't mean I don't get pissed off that I have to write "please call or email or text and let us know you got the gift" in their cards.  Grr.

lily_721

mrs_bkf:

Yes.  Nobody sends thank you notes anymore.  I don't care if it comes in the mail, email, text, phone call.  But something would be nice.

It's so frustrating when the kids I send birthday and Christmas gifts to don't acknowledge them.  I can't stop sending gifts to the kids.  It's not their fault their parents didn't teach them.  Doesn't mean I don't get pissed off that I have to write "please call or email or text and let us know you got the gift" in their cards.  Grr.

 

This annoys me greatly.  I also send thoughtful gifts and send them early.  Then we hear nothing.  Crickets.  I make DH call his sister/brother to find out if the gifts arrived, was there a problem, etc.  Nope... just never bothered to say "thank you." 

I asked SS2 how he feels about writing thank you notes.  He said he knows he needs to write them so people know he appreciates their gift and thought... and so they will give him another gift for the next holiday.  LOL.  Whatever it takes.