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Pet bonding problems
in Pets
My husband had 2 dogs when we were dating and they loved me. I had one dog as well, but then got another shortly after we were engaged. We got married almost a year ago and our pets are not getting along. My boy, Cato, will growl at his girl, Macy, for no reason. Is there any way to fix this? I want it to be fixed before the baby comes, so nothing happens to the baby and we don't have to get rid of one of the dogs.
Re: Pet bonding problems
How did you introduce the dogs initially? I always do introductions on neutral territory, then take the dogs for a walk (non-confrontational way for them to get used to each other's presence). That ship may have sailed, but if you didn't properly introduce them, it could be one of the causes of the tension.
At this point, I would practice NILIF (Google it or look at the FAQs at the top of the board) and potentially consult a behaviorist (not a trainer, they are different). It is rare for a dog to growl at another for absolutely no reason, so I'm thinking you and YH are just missing the signs (which can be extremely subtle). It could be resource guarding (Cato could be guarding you, YH, a toy, food, the couch, etc.). Cato could just want his own space (growling is a warning to the other dog). Cato could have a medical issue (which leads to my next suggestion which is to make sure all of the dogs have been checked out by a vet and given a clean bill of health).
Has it ever gone beyond growling? If not, I'm not sure why you're already talking about having to get rid of one of the dogs - just address it now so it doesn't escalate. If it has already escalated (fighting/attacks), I would separate the dogs (baby gates, crates, etc.) at all times until you consult with a behaviorist.
I think you need to figure out what Cato is growling at Macy for. I don't think you need to get rid of one of the dogs. If you think Cato is guarding you from YH dog, Macy than you can try having Cato is in or by your lap next to YH and having YH either having Macy in his lap or by him. You both pet your own dogs and then switch places. Then you'll be petting Macy and YH will be petting Cato.
Cato may then realize that Macy is really nice to you and wouldn't hurt you then settle down. I think you should look into options before you decide to get rid of one of the dogs. What about your other 2 dogs? Does this only happen between Macy and Cato?