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Different political beliefs?
Its shocking to me how many of my coworkers, friends, ect have spouses with different political beliefs. we just did a poll on my local and many women indicated that their husbands voted for the opposite candidate. i can't imagine...Significantly different political ideas would be a dealbreaker for me.
what do you think? would it bother you if your spouse/SO weren't on the same page politically?
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Re: Different political beliefs?
It would be really tough, I think, and probably a deal-breaker. Opposites usually attract but that kind of thing tends to pull people apart.
S and I have differing political opinions on some issues. (She frequently jokes that she is a conservative white man trapped in a black lesbian's body.) But our differences tend towards the strictly economic, and not so much the social, so it's not too big of a deal (most of the time). We get into some heated debates, for sure, and this political season I have largely avoided talking politics with her because I get so worked up. I have managed to change her mind on a few issues, though, so of course I still voice my opinions at least a couple of times a cycle to see if it will "stick".
[Edited to take out info about how we voted-- I shouldn't divulge S's vote unless I have her express permission, and she's not around.]
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That would be tough for me. Mainly because I usually strongly believe that I am right and I would probably just argue with Michele until she saw that she was wrong, ha. Luckily I don't have to deal with that.
I know my parents have differing political views so most of the time they just don't discuss politics and they agree to disagree. My mom leaves the political arguments with my father up to me!
Ditto. Trav and I do have differing opinions on political items... mostly economic, though a few social items (but mostly as they tie to economics). We debate some, but try to keep it more a discussion and less an argument. It doesn't always work, but we always keep it civil.
We fell in love in college during a non-election year (lol), so it didn't come up at the beginning of our relationship. We were too busy with the rest of life. We did talk about it, but it was never a huge deal. Do I think it would be easier sometimes if we were 100% in agreement? Sure. But we're not and that doesn't change that I love him.
For CT and those of you who are in complete agreement with your spouses, would you have ended the relationship with your SO if they were the same person otherwise, but with different political beliefs?
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Its so hard to say since i didn't have to ever make the choice....but at the very least it would be a BIG issue. I take politics (way too) personally and i dont know if i could cope with my spouse not being on the same page. In some ways I would feel as though she wasn't supporting me.
My political beliefs speak to who I am as a person on the most basic level and are very much tied to my moral convictions, therefore my political leanings and my compatibility with my spouse come from the same place. So, I almost feel as though if Andrea were a republican, it would be impossible for her to be the same person otherwise. Does that make sense?
And i want to clarify that i dont judge anyone who doesn't feel the same way as i do (i know i'm extreme on this)...everyone has different priorities and different "dealbreakers" so its completely understandable. I just wanted to get everyones thoughts on it
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Angi and I are both passionate about our politics and have always tended to agree on all grounds. When one of us disagrees or another is ambivilant, we make it a point to talk it out and do our research.
I've dated around the political spectrum. My partner before Angi didn't even vote. It was the 2004 election and I bawled my eyes out alone. My partner couldn't understand what the big deal was and why I was "getting so worked up." It was a real deal breaker. We'd been together more than a year and less than a month later, it was off. I've also dated a republican lesbian. I found her views to be incredibly homophobic and signified a real insecurity she had about her sexual orientation and harbored self-hatred. Bad combo.
I admire Angi's sensitivity and real interest in politics. I am so proud to have married someone that really wants to make this world a peaceful place where the liberties of all people are upheld. I don't see how she would be the same person with different political views.
Just this morning, as we stood in line an hour before the polls opened, we talked about how we'll take our children with us when we vote in the future and explain to them the process and the different political platforms. Neither of us grew up with that information and I can't imagine trying to raise children with opposing core beliefs.
Great post!
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Cecilia and I are very, very similar with regard to political beliefs. We differ slightly on some economic issues I think, but that comes from her being so strongly business-minded and me being, well, not.
I could not have a serious relationship with someone who was on the opposite side of certain issues. A small difference of opinion - sure. But a fundamental difference in politics often means a fundemental difference in values - and that would be a definite deal breaker.
Similarly, I could not be with someone who had NO political beliefs, as Mrs. Bluemont mentioned.
As for Meegs' question - Cecilia would not be who she is if she didn't hold the political beliefs that she has. For us, politics are personal and our beliefs are part of who we are.
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I'm not one of the ones to whom you were addressing your question, but thought I'd chime in anyway. I don't know if I could be in a long-term relationship with someone who holds completely opposite beliefs from me. Minor disagreements are not a deal-breaker, but I suspect major differences of opinion/belief would be. I can handle my wife writing in the name of a different Democrat than the one I voted for (in our non-swing state), but I don't know if I could have handled her voting for McCain.
FWIW, S congratulated me when Obama's victory was announced, and there are no hard feelings between us.
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I was seriously going to ask something along these lines today!
My DH voted COMPLETELY opposite of me. And I was going to ask if I was wrong to be upset with him. I have a very open family and I myself have grown up confused at times, and maybe if I hadn't married him I think I could have deffinetly fallen in love with a woman. And he knew how much the proposition meant to me because of individuals in my family it would affect and he still voted YES. I was completely taken aback!
Adn he also voted different on almost everything else, cept prop 4. And I just couldn't believe how different we are.