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husband suffering from lack of sex
I had a baby almost 5 weeks ago and everything went very well, second baby, vaginal delivery, no tearing, easy recovery. Lucky me, I know, I'm so lucky. I have been having trouble going #2 but other than that, I think I'm fine to have sex. I have my first post partum appointment on the 21st when I was going to get an IUD and then we can do it again. But the truth is, I'm not really feeling the need to have sex with my husband for several reasons. First of all, I"m breastfeeding so my boobs are really sensitive or spraying everywhere. Secondly, he's been a less supportive husband and father this time around and I'm kind of resentful of that. So I was going to ask if you ladies do anything else in the 6 weeks post partum before you can have actual intercourse and also if you are allowed to have sex before the magic 6 week number. We've been arguing a lot lately, mostly about the childcare but I was wondering if that was in part because he's not getting any and the fact that we have been less intimate in every way since the new baby came. Any thoughts?
Re: husband suffering from lack of sex
Sex can wait a bit until you feel up to it. And he can wait for intercourse.
You can still give him handjobs, blowjobs and put on a show for him.
Did you talk to him about this, outside of the bedroom? If not, you'd better. Communication is key -- those are the 3 words I use most on all these boards.
And oh yeah....he can masturbate, also. Sex isn't just intercourse.:)
I agree. I cried on the way home from my 6 week PP appointment because I was upset that I COULD have sex again.
That said, I did find that DH and I stopped fighting once we started having sex again. But that may just be us.
You wont' be at your personal best if you don't feel your best. That won't help your cause any.
I think you're being too harsh on yourself! You should never feel obligated to have sex - even with your husband. A new baby on top of another child can be exhausting! A new baby - and all the changes going on with your body. I'm sorry that your husband isn't being supportive. I can easily see how this makes you not feel like being physically intimate with your husband. I would mention this to your OB/GYN when you go for your check up.
I think he may just be acting like an ass because he has not been getting any ass. If you can safely have sex then do it, extra sensitive boobie can be a good thing;)
Good Luck!!