Not living alone

mancila60

So H and I are moving his mom into our house. She is terminally ill and may not have very long as in just a few months. We just got married a month ago (May 19) and are just beginning to enjoy our married life.

Since we are newlyweds and everything obviously we are concerned about our sex life and how this could/will effect it. We were planning to start trying for a baby before our 1 year. Obviously things will have to be tweaked a little bit and we are prepared for all that.

What I am wondering is how can we still maintain somewhat of a sex life? She will be in the room next to us so obviously using our bed is out of the question and so is other common areas of the house. We are desperately trying to keep a normal marriage while still handling major issues.

Any advice? ? ? ?

white318

I have two teenagers that stay with us every other weekend... and frequent houseguests.  You can make love in your bed...it actually is pretty intense to try and be quiet and have an exciting love making session.  First of all, move your headboard away from the wall... that helps.  Then, just be creative.  Lean over the bed, rather than laying on it...trying sitting positions that don't take much movement... and also the shower works well when you want to cover up noise... you can also take a bath together if you have a larger bathtub.  Goodluck !!  And kuddos to you both for taking care of your MIL.

cbradeis

I totally agree with the previous poster.  I've never had someone live in our house with us.  But sometimes we open the windows just for the thrill of "oh, maybe they will hear us."  (See us?  No thanks, shades stay down!).  But it is quite exciting!

srgw

I agree with the pp about sex being really exciting knowing someone might hear you so you have to be as quiet as possible.

Annikafox

I agree with the previous posters.  My husband and I live in a duplex with a neighbor above us.  We have taken the added step of putting our bed on the floor (no rolling bed frame, but its on top of the mattress frame), while this decreases the underbed storage space you have it definitely help reduce the noise/movement of the bed.  You can also try playing loud music or just taking advantage of any times your MIL leaves to run errands.

Knena&her3loves

Putting your bed on the floor or doing it on a blanket on the floor will really reduce the noise. My DH and I moved in with my Mom while we were looking for another place to live and our sex sessions have decreased and quieted down a lot

We try to do it when she's not home or in the late/early hours when I know she'll be asleep.

We've also started taking advantage of doing it outside of the house, which can be really exciting!  

Just remember, your MIL knows your a married couple, married couples have sex, it's not that embarrassing if she accidentally hears something every now and again.