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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Zoloft on or off
Hi. I'm due to get married in less than 2 months. Things have been so great with my fianc?e that I decided to go off my Zoloft which I have been on for over ten years. One of the bigger reasons going off Zoloft was for pregnancy. My FI had strong options about antidepressants and pregnancies especially because of those awful commercials. Well I went off them about 2 months ago completely and things have been getting worse. I had such a bad panic attack we couldn't make it to his fathers retirement party. I feel like a failure. I think my FI feels like he has failed me too becaus he wasn't able to talk me through it. When we returned home he told me he thought I needed to go back on Zoloft. He also said that we should think about canceling or postponing our omey,on until I am better. I feel awful about this. He has been distant too but he says he doesn't want to say anything to upset me but I really need to feel his love and support right now. BTW that should say canceling our honeymoon not omey lol. I need to know everything will be okay but I am ashamed to tell my friends and family because I feel like a failure. People warned me that planning a wedding was one of the most stressful times in your life and that this probably wouldn't be the best time to try and go off Zoloft but I didn't listen now I wish I had. Anyone else have similar experience with going off Zoloft and going back on it? Thanks!
Re: Zoloft on or off
Honestly, if you feel better on the Zoloft, get back on the Zoloft. I've tried (sometimes successfully, mostly not) to deal with my anxiety without medication for the better part of the past 15 years, and it's almost always better when I just suck it up and take the pills. My downfall is always the "But I feel so great, why do I need these anymore?" mentality, which is seems you have also fallen victim to.
My therapist always told me that most people have anxiety. The difference is that many people are able to say "I'm having this anxiety that I can't control, but I *can* control my reaction to it." If you feel like you can't control your reaction to your anxieties, don't drive a wedge into your relationship for something that you *can* get help for.
Afte six years on Zoloft, I was off of it and happy and functional for about a year. I won't even describe the mess I turned in to. One of my closest friends needed medication to get through wedding planning and everything else that was going on in her life.
Now I've found a relatively happy combination with my medication. I would never dream of attempting to go off of it while doing wedding stuff, though.
Fianc? and I are both against extra chemicals during pregnancy, and kidlets aren't too far off. At the same time I know that I could not be functional and loving with him if I were riddled with anxiety, as I would be if I were not on my meds.
We have decided to very consciously take things one week at a time (with an eye on one event at a time). We couldn't get to the wedding with my anxiety and depression completely out of control. That needs to come first.
Also, I can't focus on being a good mom if I'm too much of a wreck to leave the house, you know? One goal at a time.
I tried doing the same thing, and within weeks was bawling all the time, locking myself in rooms alone and snapping at my family. I went back on, and everything was right with the world again.
My doctor told me she believes Zoloft is the safest anti-depressant to be on during pregnancy, so maybe you could get a second opinion.