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Newly Married - Move to Zurich - Any advice?!
So after many years of assuming I'd be single forever (with the family chorus backing up this tune) I met DF (not quite DH until November!) and we're delirious and happy etc. etc.
He is a Brit and transferred to his Swiss practice last year. I lived in the UK for a long time (how we met) but moved back to the US (Southern Belle). Yup, currently commuting US - CH. But that's all about to end in November and I have a MILLION concerns and questions I'd love some tips on from International Nesties or other newlyweds.
1. Moving to Switzerland after the wedding - Work Permits and Name Changes. I know I qualify for working papers and residency (based on qualifications needed) and our marital status once we are married. Any one struggle with an international move / name change? I want to change my name but the sheer and utter FAFF of it all makes me want to wait until I'm settled in Zurich with all my Swiss paperwork sorted and furniture on a boat before attempting this. Any advice?
2. Living with a boy/hubby - My parents are elated - Managed to reach 30 (in 5 days!) without co-habitating with a man. Umm, yes that's fine but now am moving 4000 miles away AND living with a MAN and a HUSBAND for the first time. Grew up with 2 brothers but doubt this is the same thing...(we aren't traditional or anything but never made it to the 'living together' stage before exiting the UK). Any tips/fights to expect or look out for when moving in with someone? Particualrly given that it's not our native country and a smaller-than-normal apartment? I'd like to not be divorced please 
3. Moving your STUFF - As we're both older than 23 we have our own stuff. I'm selling most of my electronics, car, TV, flatscreen, KitchenAid (that stings) and packing my nice interior decor up and shipping a container over after the wedding. Any tips on THAT? Keep hearing crazy things about how I need to have my permits sorted (could take 12 weeks) first but then I only have 3 months to send wedding gifts over duty free (hmmm). Or how to, umm, gently, REMOVE some of future DH's IKEA rejects and 'non-stick' pans that were 'non-stick' 40 years ago (seriously, we may not be able to have children based on the amount of petroleum based crud he scrapes into our scrambled eggs in that damn non-stick pan every morning - he declares it's still a non-stick pan despite needing a blow torch to remove anything from the bottom). Tips on nesting internationally in general?
4. Anyone else in Zurich? I LOVE that city; heck I love Switzerland and I've lived a lot of places all over the world. We're living in Kriess 2 so near the fashionable places but thankfully not paying their rent! No kids for a while though!!!! Despite what my mother says, 30 is NOT too old to wait a few years!
So happy they have this section now and willingly take all advice on starting this new (scary and fun) adventure with the Mister!
Re: Newly Married - Move to Zurich - Any advice?!
Hey
Congratulations on the engagement and the move. I'm here in Zug with my fianc? and he's American and I'm English. Yes the apartments are much smaller but look on it as a time to edit and purge all your stuff. Have a look on the English forum and that should answer most of you questions. Best of luck and no living with a guy doesn't ever get easier - they are sometimes from another planet !