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How often.....
Alright ladies... I don't want to come across sounding weird or anything. But I was woundering how offten do you and your spouse have sex. I have been keeping track since the begining of the year how often we have sex. In the begnining we hardly did it at all and now that its geting warm outside, it seems like that sex is the only thing on our minds.
Also I am fairly new on here, so hello to everyone.
Re: How often.....
If we are on vacation though, it's once (or twice) a day. So we try to do a vay-k every other month!
FYI - twice a day? Really, for real?! I don't even have time to use the bathroom twice a day sometimes.
Not married yet (39 days to go!)
We average 2 times a week. We both are crazy busy with work schedules so we are trying to make sex more of a priority. I would love to get up to atleast 3 times a week.
But also 2x a day? How do you have the time/energy?
I don't mean this in a snarky way but do you have a job? Because I'm trying to figure out how I could ever find enough time to do that. Even when we first got together more than a decade ago we still had school and jobs and stuff. Now we work opposite schedules and have a baby so I'm thinking our few times a week is good...
No I'm a SAHM. But even when I did have a job, we were still going at it a few times a day.
Are you serious? Twice a day? I'm definitely not showing H this post!!!
We average a couple times a week. Since we got married (May) we have for some unknown reason, have been going at it even more. Not sure what that's all about, but certainly not complaining either.
Frequency depends a lot on the sex drive of the partners as well as circumstances. Whatever works for the two of you is normal. I have a friend that even after a couple years they have sex an average of 5 times a day. Not much foreplay, not drawn out. It's exactly what makes them happy (she's a close friend of mine so I felt OK asking about those logistics).
Me and My sweetie aren't married but live together. After the initial sex-crazed period we settled into every other day or so. Our idea of sex we enjoy is time consuming so we have to create time. One successful way was cutting out almost all TV.
There is no wrong answer if you're both happy.
Before we got married, we'd have weeks where we'd have sex really often, and then times where we didn't have sex for a couple weeks at a time.
After we got married (and I've been having trouble with BCP lately, it's driving me nutty) I was finding it really difficult to get in the mood (which had not been a problem for me previously).
I realised that we were having sex maybe twice a month, because sometimes we tried and I just couldn't get in the mood and it wouldn't work (tmi?) but I've since realised its to do with BCP. I've been making a huge effort lately and its been paying off... we're close to twice a week again now.
Good news is I'll be coming off BCP soon because we want to start trying.
Intercourse, probably 5x a week. Other stuff, maybe 3-4x a week as well.
We are subscribers to the belief that a healthy sex life is part of a healthy marriage. Married 7 years, 2 1/2 year old son.
Reason being the relationship is OVER.
Think about it... and even if it isn't over, why do you want a guy who won't have sex with you???
That's the biggest problem: your self esteem and your desparation: you are willing to chase a guy who closed the door of the bedroom -- with him inside of the room -- a long long time ago.