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Cornered...
I recently attended a baby shower for my cousin's wife..needless to say, the babies were in full bloom and I couldn't help but feel antsy to get the H outta there.
Afterwards, I entered a comment on my FB about the urge to run away..the replies I had to that particular post were pretty funny..some of the best from my future MIL, who is concerned that I might be a tad headstrong, mentioned that I was just "running for the hills" due to the highly contagious factor of pregnancy!
Le sigh! To say that she has a bad case of "granny lust" is an understatement.
Know what I mean?
Re: Cornered...
Neither my parents nor his parents have really got "grandma lust". However I think his grandmother may have "great grandma lust". She's not overbearing and so i've been pretty able to laugh it off. It's just kind of awkward because she never says anything about it when its H and I. Its always just when its me there and H isn't. Like if he goes to the restroom or outside or something then she'll say little things about great grandkids while she can still play with them, etc.
My parents haven't pressured us at all. I'm the oldest child, and I have two brothers still at home, so I don't think they're quite ready for grandkids yet.
DH's parents are different though. DH is the youngest child by a long shot, he was a surprise baby later in life for his parents. They already have 3 grandkids from DH's 2 sisters, but they have dropped some light hints at us that they want a couple more.
It's distant relatives, coworkers, strangers, etc. that are always talking about us having a baby.
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All of this except that they are telling me I have to have kids now rather than "light hints". They have 2 grandkids and one more on the way from H's 2 sisters. Not even an hour after SIL announced that she was pregnant, they cornered me and mentioned how I should get pregnant. When I tried to politely give reasons for why we're not having kids yet, they argued back. I said, "I'm 23. We've got plenty of time. We just got married and we're still young." They said that they are getting older and they want to enjoy all their grandkids while they still can so I have to have them now before it's "too late" for them.
I wish I could say they were joking, but they were completely serious.
Ugh! I sincerely hope DH's parents don't do that. FIL is already 10 years older than MIL, and he's quickly approaching 70 (I think he will turn 70 at his next birthday, in fact). So I keep waiting for them to pull the "we're getting old" card on me. I'm 24, I don't want kids yet.
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Quite frankly, it's none of their business. If you want to get your point across the next time they say something, say this to them: "So what you're really asking is how often we have sex."
If they don't get that hint, tell them that you will put off having kids for 6 months each time they bring it up. If they bring it up three times in a visit, that's a year and a half longer to wait.