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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Fault vs. No Fault Divorce?
For anyone who has been in this situation, please help me out. I'm starting the divorce process and was wondering if Fault/No Fault makes a huge difference. My husband's cheating and lying are the reasons I'm seeking a divorce. I'm currently 7 months pregnant and just want this all to end without any drama. I know if I file fault I have to get other people (the OW) involved and just don't see it being worth all the drama and aggravation. Any suggestions? We've only been married a year if that helps with the response. I just don't want to make the wrong decision for me and my daughter. Thank you for listening.
Re: Fault vs. No Fault Divorce?
Talk to a lawyer. You have a child on the way and that makes things more complicated. We don't know what state you live in or what laws will be applicable but a local family law attorney will.
I recently went through a no-fault divorce (and it truly was no fault), but I've had friends go through fault divorces. Two basic differences I've noticed--1) No fault is a whole heck of a lot cheaper, 2) No fault is faster, because there's no bickering over money.
With a child on the way, you need to decide what's most important to you and the well-being of your child. Ex: Can you afford to seek sole custody, forcing YH to give up his parental rights (and therefore your right to child support)? I agree with other posters, get a GOOD lawyer. There are likely too many variables for you to sort through on your own, and SO often you and YH won't be able to agree on support and division of property. It's better to have someone on your side early on, fighting for YOU.
GL!
Now in a new, healthy relationship
P/SAIF Welcome
You need to speak with an attorney because every state is different. I went through a "no-fault" divorce while I was pregnant with our 2nd child. The issue was consider "irreconsilable differences." I still collect FULL CHILD SUPPORT and I actually negotiated for ALIMONY for a total of four years after we divorced (regardless of whether I remarried or lived with another guy).
So, every divorce is different. I know this is a cop out, but really you should seek legal advice.
Best wishes to you! And congrats on your pregnancy
My 2nd child (my son) was my savior during that divorce. He absolutely saved me. I wish you the best!