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What do to now... and all we wanted was to add to our family
This is my first time posting here. I've always posted on The Bump. I've been with DH for 11 years and married for 6. We have two DD's 2 1/2 and 15 mo. We recently miscarried as we were trying to add to our family. Me:29 DH:30
But... why... there are so many things wrong with our marriage.
I'm looking for advice from wives who have husbands that lie. We have a HUGE trust problem in our marriage. My DH creates exaggerated lies and stories enough that he believes his own lies.
I am going to a marriage counselor on Sunday, but with all that has happened... I don't know if it's going to work.
Any advice would be appreciated. TIA.
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Re: What do to now... and all we wanted was to add to our family
Has this issue existed since the beginning or your r-ship or did it start at some point once you were married? Recently?
If it was not present in the beginning, can you pinpoint when it did begin - perhaps there was a event that created this behavior?
I'm looking for advice from wives who have husbands that lie. We have a HUGE trust problem in our marriage. My DH creates exaggerated lies and stories enough that he believes his own lies
First and foremostly he needs a complete physical and a mental health evaluation.
Let them rule out organic health problems --- it could also be that he is mentally ill or is starting to exhibit some behavior of it thereof.
IF all is ruled out, you and he need counseling.
If he is lying just to lie, this is not only insecurity, it's woeful immaturity.
As the pp asked, more backstory is needed.
What is he lying about?
FWIW, I wouldn't want to be with someone that I couldn't trust.
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Maybe we can narrow it down a bit here what is happening:
What exactly has he lied about, when did this begin and does there seem to be a pattern to his lies?
Maybe you caught him texting other women before you got married and he cooked up a lie about that and has been lying about his dalliances ever since -- I don't know -- you tell us what's going on here.
If this is only very recently and his lies are far fetche and bizzare, that's why I said for you to get him to a doc: there could be a clinical reason why he is lying.
Of course, if he's just a garden variety pathological liar, why would you want to be with him in the first place?
And why would you think he's an ideal father for a child, being he's a liar?
I think I smell some M.U.D?!