Isn't it selfish??

LindzMarie19

I've been reading several of these posts and I've def been asked and told a lot of things that you ladies have been told.

 

The situation that bothers me the most is when the in laws want you to have kids soon so that THEY can still play with them, and because THEY are getting older. In my opinion, and I think most of yall will agree, that's not really a good reason to have a baby. The last time I checked, it was okay and actually quite normal for grandparents to be "old". 

 My MIL has told me that she wants me and my husband to have children SOON before she gets too old.  BTW shes in her early 50s, not "old". She has no grandchildren. She has mentioned to me that she is afraid that husband's brother will never have children ( he's going through a separation right now) Well, ya know what, that's his choice to have children not yours.

I'm 21 and a senior in collage... i'm def not ready. I think its so selfish to beg for grandchild just so you aren't an "old" grandparent.  If you can't tell, I really hate being cornered to have children. I think its rude to corner and badger someone about the issue.

 

rant over. lol 

sessionswedding

It is definitely rude and selfish.  If she wants a baby to play with, she can adopt or become a foster parent.  It is not your job to provide her with infant playmates.

Savanna111911

Maybe she could get a part time job babysitting. 

 

quirky75

sessionswedding:

It is definitely rude and selfish.  If she wants a baby to play with, she can adopt or become a foster parent.  It is not your job to provide her with infant playmates.

All of this.

My ILs give me the same reasons.  It's none of their business and it is not their decision to make!

charbakes

My mother can sometimes get baby fever, but she's usually very zen about what WE choose to do with our lives. Both my parents make it very clear that starting a family is up to us, not them.

dahlias06

Agreed!  For that reason when my husband and I got married I told everyone from the get go that there might not be a baby - ever.

Now I have baby on the brain which is fine.  But I hated all of the questions, when are you going to have a baby. We have been married for 6 years and finally, just finally they have stopped asking.

toothpastechica

My mom is thrilled that we are waiting, she thinks people rush into having kids to early. My MIL on the other hand, couldn't have kids (H was adopted) and always wanted a big family and thinks that we should have many many grandchildren. So on our wedding she told people the "due date" of her gandchild...and keeps pushing the issue....we just laugh every month when the BC still works and say "oh I guess your mom is another month off!" We are not planning on having kids until I finish my schooling and get my career going which will probably be a while....I figure as long as I have kids by my early 30's theres no rush! (I am 26).

AurorasEnvy

Totally rude and selfish.  I'd give anyone a piece of my mind who tried to talk me into having a baby because they felt I should.

kaseykins

LindzMarie19:

I'm 21 and a senior in collage... i'm def not ready. I think its so selfish to beg for grandchild just so you aren't an "old" grandparent.  If you can't tell, I really hate being cornered to have children. I think its rude to corner and badger someone about the issue.

 

If you're a senior shouldn't you be able to spell college?

MrsJWoodJr

I agree it is selfish. My mom is happy that H and I want to wait- she keeps telling me that we need to enjoy being with each other before we have kiddos. 

srgw

My parents are in their mid 60s and have mentioned getting older and therefore wanting more grandkids while they are still able to do fun things with them. They don't pressure us so much as drop hints every now and again.

ElleB87

kaseykins:

LindzMarie19:

I'm 21 and a senior in collage... i'm def not ready. I think its so selfish to beg for grandchild just so you aren't an "old" grandparent.  If you can't tell, I really hate being cornered to have children. I think its rude to corner and badger someone about the issue.

 

If you're a senior shouldn't you be able to spell college?

ElleB87

kaseykins:

LindzMarie19:

I'm 21 and a senior in collage... i'm def not ready. I think its so selfish to beg for grandchild just so you aren't an "old" grandparent.  If you can't tell, I really hate being cornered to have children. I think its rude to corner and badger someone about the issue.

 

If you're a senior shouldn't you be able to spell college?

 

lol I was thinking the exact same thing.

 While I do agree with the OP's point of view it's hard to take someone seriously when they can't spell the word 'college', especially when they are actually in college.