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Those that are moms/pregnant/want kids someday
Will you find out the sex or will you wait?
We found out with DS and it was nice to be able to decorate the room accordingly and buy him boy clothes, but next time we are thinking about waiting. I just don't know if I will be able to!
I am not good with surprises and will want to prepare everything (the room, clothes, etc.) but then part of me feels like what an amazing thing to hear "It's a boy" or "It's a girl" after all those months.
Those of you who were team green, are you glad you were? Would you do it again?
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Re: Those that are moms/pregnant/want kids someday
We were team green and LOVED it. Drove everyone we knew crazy (who cares, it's not your baby! ARGH!) but it definitely made things really exciting, esepcailly while in labor, I knew that every contaction, every pain was getting me closer to fiding out who was "in there". It also gave me more motivation to push hard and long and get this kid out and meet them and find out if it was a he or a she!
We didn't have nursery "issues" b/c we were in apartment and couldn't paint but we got neutral furniture (chocolate brown) that'd look good with just about any color, and we got some plain color crib sheets (white & yellow) and some pooh bear ones. We could have easily gotten a whole nursery done in "neutral" theme like Pooh, jungle, ocean, etc. and not had an issue, there is a lot available. I also hate painting, and when we are in a "forever home" DD will be allowed to have say in the color we paint her room and how it is decorated. I figure since she's too little to care what her nursery looked like, we just made it very home-y and neutral and she can change it when she's bigger and knows what she likes. Why decorate it and spend all that money to just redo it in a few years?
Also, I didn't want to swim in a sea of pink or blue at a baby shower, and that worked well for us: we got some neutral clothes, some team clothes (Phillies/Pengiuins/Pitt, etc) and still got a ton of pink clothes after she was born. We were able to buy a few neutral outfits and had a ton of hand-me-downs from friends so we weren't hurting in the clothes department EVER. In fact, this kid is so spoiled by her family that we are set up through 2T and she's just getting into 12mo sizes now.
We will definitely do team green again b/c we now have all the basics and don't need anything for the first month or so with any future kids. It was also fun b/c my attending OB got SO psyched that she would be the one to tell EVERYONE if baby was a boy or girl - her excitement almost matched mine, which made it more fun!
I'd never try to talk anyone out of their decision but I do hate all the crap I got told and feel the need to dispel all the falsehoods around things like oh you can never get the nursery ready (false), or never be able to have clothes ready (false) and you'll never bond (false.)
ETA: oh, and not all neutral clothes are yellow/ducks. I have lots of white, silver/grey, tan/brown/monkeys, green/frogs, teddy bears, etc....you get the picture!
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Thanks for all the input ladies, it's fun to see people's reasons why they are team green or not.
I feel like we have all the big stuff (which we kept mostly gender neutral) and a lot of the clothes (onesies, etc) that could be used either way. So I kind of feel like it might be fun to go team green. Plus I think I'd spend less money because I wouldn't be able to buy paint or new clothes or anything without knowing.
What I don't know, is how I would resist the urge to find out early, because I work in radiology and could have them take a peak when I work. It would take all the self control possible to not have them look!!!!
DH wants to be team green next time around, but his main reason is to see me go crazy for 9 months! I'm terrible with surprises and he always teases me about it.
I don't know if I could resist the urge to find out early with mine (in the future, of course!) We will probably find out for names, etc, but register for gender neutral items. I don't love a lot of pink/blue baby clothes, so if I get them for a shower, I might use some or exchange for brighter more neutral clothes. Everyone will get a genuine "thank you" though because I'm sure a lot of thought went into their selection. Because who doesn't love to pick out baby clothes? :-)
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That is SUCH a cute idea!
I think we will definitely find out. I went through my whole life thinking I'd want to be surprised b/c that's what my mom did, but now that I'm older I've decided I WANT to know. I want to spend those nine months thinking about him/her, guessing what he/she will look like, and picturing my life with him/her. I just feel like attaching his/her sex to my imagination will help me prepare better, because I'm really bad at situations where I don't know what's going on. I think it depends on the couple, but we'll definitely be better off knowing, I think.
What I do want to do is have TWO names picked out, so that when we see our baby at delivery we can decide which one 'fits' him or her.
I think this is totally true. Then again, DH and I both love surprises. It was my grandma who was ticked b/c she didn't know what color blanket to make for the baby (she made one that was white, blue, pink green and yellow, one of those baby yarns with all kinds of colors, you know?)
As for the names, yeah we went in with 2 boy names and 1 girl name and she popped out a girl and there was no doubt that she WAS herself, and even for friends who went in with 2 names they always ended up picking the "first choice" b/c I think you just get so mentally attached to one name. I think if DD had come out a boy she still may not have had a name, we has SO many problems picking boy names!! (and God help me if we get pregnant anytime soon, it'll take us 9 months to find boys names that we like....)