Can't shut your brain off

MR.&Mrs

Lately my DH and I are trying to have more sex b/c we are about to start TTC. And the sex is good sometimes even great. But, I have one of those brains that won't shut off so I can't have the Big O, and this turns DH off. Does anyone else have this problem and how do I shut my brain off? 

artbyallie

It seems that for a lot of women, having an orgasm is at least as much mental (if not more!) as it is physical. Don't try to 'shut your brain off.' That will only make you think more about whatever it is you're trying not to think about. Focus instead on the moment with your DH and how he's making you feel. But don't have orgasm as some sort of goal or endpoint. And he needs to not pressure you to have one. Both of those will make it much harder on you, especially since you're apparently overthinking it already.

TarponMonoxide

Was this always a problem?

What you need to do:

Discover masturbation.

I will bet you've never done it.

Do it -- and just concentrate on how good it feels. It's a sure fire way to orgasm -- and then show him what makes you orgasm.

Is he going down on you?

If not, he should. Another guaranteed orgasm for you.

MR.&Mrs

I do masturbate b/c DH works nights and is only off 2 days a week. And I don't always go mental just when i wake up early or have a long day and DH is trying to get me to relax. I have even been think to much to orgasm during masturbation before. I hate it when my brain keeps going and going.  

F15Wife

What about reading erotic sex stories? Watching porn?

Rdautenhahn

Erotica helps me a lot. Also I will ask my husband for what I call "mama" time, where he will massage me and really get me into the mood. I was checking back to make sure that witches, b!tchy comment about the gun had been removes. B!thes be trippin. 

~NB~

What else could you be thinking about? It sounds like you're not at all into what you're doing. Or not into him. Either way, I can understand why it's a turn off.

MR.&Mrs

I am in to DH.  Just when Im super stressed about work or church I tend to only focus on what stresses me. 

And I haven't tried erotic books.