I need to work out and he doesn't

mrslauralyons

I have always needed to work out for mental health, as well as physical health. My husband is more the type that he'll work out if he feels he needs to lose some weight, and then bam - he's done. I need to be working out and/or being active consistently but since we got married last fall, I find myself suddenly not motivated. I do believe that I tend to mirror the people I spend the most time with, aka the hubby. So I find myself thinking I'd rather hang out with him and be lazy then separate myself from him and get my butt to the gym.

 

Anyone experience the same thing or have any suggestions on how to stay consistent with exercise while living with someone who doesn't want/need to?

 

Thanks! -Laura 

SusanH.

I work out and my DH doesnt.  I find if I do it immediately after work I get it done!

I find the gym is where I make friends and have a couple of them that I arrange to meet up with there and we do a work out together. We motivate each other and if we make a "date" to meet , I find I HAVE to go.

cpm1223

H and I have never, in the 7 years we've been together, gone to the gym together. I prefer to go alone so I can do whatever I want...stay as long or as little as I want.

H works in construction so his daily work life gives him all the exercise he needs. Plus, he's really lucky because he can eat just about anything he wants and not gain a pound!

Think of going to the gym by yourself as time for you to focus on just you.

jnjmommy0609

I join online support groups and it helps that both of my very good friends are fitness nuts. Also I am slowly but surely getting my husband to join me. Tonight we are going to have a big talk about health and fitness. Communication between spouses also means a lot with how health and fitness will go in your house.

erollis

I cannot work out alone at a gym or alone at all. H does not need to work out and I need to work out to stay fit and healthy. I found that a attending classes and a student/teacher one on one works best for me. It keeps me motivated and going back.

mostlygrateful

I went through the same thing when we first got married. I finally had to come to the conclusion that I had been working out long before I met my wife and got tired of feeling emotionally and physically like sh!t, so I went back to my usual routine. I usually go to the gym on my way home from work. If I go home first, I rarely leave after that.

Vikkie815

I was in the same boat up to last year when I decided I was tired of being heavy and I needed to do something with or without DH. I started swimming since I was on a team growing up and frankly its the only exercise I enjoy enough to still with. I usually go on my way home so its just part of the daily routine. I would have trouble going home and then back out again. I also have an MP3 player that I use to help the time pass more quickly.

Also, if you have a hard time working out alone, are there any classes you are interested in?

kellbell1919

I go after work and take all of my crap with me.  I find that having my running shoes and going through my day planning to run makes it easier for me to do it.

margot209

Stupid guys and their awesome metabolisms :-P

Maybe try to get into a sport/class that you both would have a lot of fun in.  Maybe ultimate frisbee, pickup basketball games with friends, or even going for a nice long walk after dinner in a pretty area of town.  Me and DH used to go to super swanky neighbourhoods for walks, and we'd both pick out our dream houses.

Also, try something that's fun just for you.  Dance class? Biking?  If you make it fun, you'll want to go a lot more.  It doesn't have to be a tonne of time away from him, a one hour class once or twice a week would probably be refreshing from your routine.