Trouble in Paradise
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Marriage Counseling
The hubs and I have an appointment scheduled for counseling tomorrow. I don't know what to expect and I am very nervous. H and I have been having some serious problems since I got pregnant last June and I am at a breaking point. It is basically marriage counseling works a miracle or I am out. I can't stand the selfish, rude, messy, lazy person my husband has become... especially since we have a baby now. It isn't fair to me or to her. Anything I should be aware of or think about that will help us get the most out of the appointment?
Re: Marriage Counseling
You both need to take it seriously. You also need to practice and work on what they tell you to. It is a slow process if the problem(s) are habit or major issue. If you know your H is really trying to change (taking the steps needed) patience and encouragement will help.
Seeing different and seperate counselors from the marriage counselor may help you two if the issues are bad enough. Even if you do split up that individual counselor will help you through.
Often she will meet with you both first, then separately one time each and then together for the remainder.
Almost everyone tries at various points to convince the counselor that he/she is right and the other is wrong. Good therapists don't get sucked into that. You'll make more progress if you both are vigilant and try to hear what your spouse is trying to say rather than winning the counselor over to your point of view.
Good luck. It takes a lot of work to stay married.
He cant be putting the entire load on you and there's no call for him being rude or selfish.
If you've spoken to him and this is still happening, yes, time to see a counselor. I am guessing he is not equally parenting the child. High time he should. GL.