July 2009 Weddings
Kate&Mark
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Wishful Wednesday
Re: Wishful Wednesday
I wish...
-the next 2 weeks go by quickly so we can have our next appointment!
-work goes better today.
-I can see my oldest friend's baby girl soon. Hopefully without seeing her gem of a husband.
-I make it through the Dark Knight this weekend. J is so excited for this movie. I see it as a 3 hour nap I'm missing.
I wish...
-I hadn't bought the pants I'm wearing. They fit under the belly and they're uncomfortable now that I'm getting a little bigger. When I sit down, they dig in a little (elastic is only in the back) and it makes me look fat and not pregnant.
-that we had 3-day work weeks and that each work day was only 10-2.
-that I didn't have to wait 11 weeks before my next ultrasound.
-that we had a pool (floating in the pool on my birthday was SO relaxing and something I wish I could do more often).
-that the amount in my bank account would quadruple.
-that Birdie's student loans would be forgiven, but without the tax issues.
-that the dogs would behave for me like they do for DH.
-that I could see my Nestie Besties more.
I wish that my child would stop beating me up. I love feeling him/her move, but geez the movements are violent at this stage in the game.
I wish I could sleep and not feel like I've been run over by a truck or had the most intense workout of my life every morning.
I wish our future holds happiness and stability in a place we want to be.
I wish I had a money tree.
I wish there weren't chocolate cream pie in my fridge right now, I want to eat the whole thing!
- I wish that by some miracle Matt gets called for an interview (and eventually gets this job) for this posting we found. It is more money, less hours, shorter commute, and perfect for him. It is a long stretch though b/c it has been posted for a while and he just got his resume in. Fingers crossed though!
- I wish for a BFP soon. I am getting more and more discouraged as the months roll on. I love Maggie with all my heart, but I really want another baby.
- I wish for a smooth busy season, with little stress.
- I wish for a perfect night away for me and Matt. I am pretty excited!
Having never TTC I have no concrete advice except to say that maybe if you let it go a bit, it'll just happen. I find that sometimes when I stress about something, it actually prolongs it... I mean I know there are a LOT of factors with trying to have a baby but I will pray for you as I did for Kari. I do know it will happen for you... just have fun and enjoy your evening with your hubby. Big hugs... been thinkin about ya.
I wish there was a way of finding out teachers who are immoral, stupid and disgusting BEFORE they think it's ok to sleep with students. I'm tired of seeing them on the news and giving teachers a bad name.
I wish school didn't start in 2 1/2 weeks!! What happened to summer?! I am sooo not ready for a whole school year to start.
I am secretly wishing for this other job opportunity though I am 95% sure it isnt going to happen and definitely looking at the bright side that I have a job... so many teachers do not.
I wish I was married... not to the ex... just married already. I am ready to be settled, to share the everyday life's joys and challenges with someone on a daily basis. This week I've spent with J and it has been wonderful. We absolutely will not live together until we are married and I definitely don't want to rush it. I know we have the rest of our lives but at 33 years of age, I'm ready to stop living alone. Dont get me wrong... Living with the wrong guy was WAYYYYY worse than living alone... but now that I've found Mr. Wonderful, it makes it more and more of a reality and desire for me.
We can meet in Ohio somewhere so the guys can see Batman and neither of us have to...and can hang out instead ;-)
I wish I had a time turner. So I could sleep in everyday and still get all my work done.
I wish our dog park was done already.
I wish it wasn't raining.
I wish...
...this house would unpack itself.
...I could figure out if I want to teach when I go back to work..or go in a new direction...but I'm feeling like I'm not good at anything. :-/
...DH wasn't going to come home sick b/c sick men =whiny men
...I didn't feel so lonely...I know it will take time to meet people being in a new town but I hate feeling like I'm never going to meet people. Even if I didnt see my friends in Md that often...I knew they were there. Here I know i have DH's family but i dont know how much we will see them since they have lives and Mil is making me regret moving closer to them (thankfully..of all the family, they are the furthest), but she has lost her boundsries since this pregnancy and I just resent her anymore the minute I see her or hear her voice.
...I wish I didn't feel so guilty for taking Landon 5 hours from my parents. I feel like a terrible person.
Have you looked into any mommy/me type of groups or meetup.com or something? Might be good to meet other moms who are in the same point in life to maybe meet up and have lunch and stuff with. Do you have a job lined up? School for us starts in a few weeks so most jobs are already solidified. Hang in there... it'll get better and dont be afraid to set boundaries with MIL... just because you moved close to them doesn't give anyone free reign over you and your family. Hugs
I haven't yet, but I think that sounds like a good idea once we get more settled.
No job lined up. I know it would have been impossible this year, esp. because no one in PA is hiring thanks to the loovvveely gov.'s budget cuts to public education. My only possibility would be a cyber school, if they are even hiring. I'm not sure how I would like doing that though. The thing I liked most about teaching was the interaction with the kids, which I would only have through a computer.
I'm torn between wanting to stay home with L. but feeling like I should work.
As for MIL, it's been hard to set boundaries because DH won't stand up to her unless she does something completely out of line & even then, he often says nothing because then she gets moody. I guess he prefers me being moody & says I'm just sensitive when it comes to her (probably because it seems like I have complained about just about everything she has done lately..but well..she's been annoying lately!). Sigh. We'll see how this goes.
I know this is just a combination of some baby blues & a lot of stress from so much going on & i'll snap out of it..but for now, it just isn't fun to feel this way.
I sometimes feel for the guys who mediate between wife and family but I also know what it is like to be in an area away from your own family and friends. That is a tough situation... no doubt about it. I know the boys do the "try to make everybody happy" thing and it's awesome that you are kind of hanging out and trying to make the best of it, recognizing that there might be some "baby blues." I know a lot of girls have that the first couple of months. I'm sure you'll snap out of it, too. Maybe forcing yourself to put L in the stroller and go for a walk or something when the weather is good might help...
Hang in there, I'm sure once you feel more settled and kind of feel like you have your OWN life apart from in laws might help you feel happier about the move. Plus it just sucks when you dont have everything unpacked and settled. Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, hehe. Hugs
Thanks for the pep talk. I needed it big time & to vent/let it out a little to someone other than Ian. I definitely can't wait for it to stop raining or being so hot so we can go for walks! I think you are right..that will definitely help just to get out.