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Married but no time w/ DH
I've been married almost a month and it feels like DH and I have less time together now after work than we did when we were dating and living apart! I work a regular 9-5 shift but DH, being in law enforcement, is out the door at 4:15am in the morning. SO he is in bed before 9pm at night. I basically come home, we walk the dog, make dinner, and he is ready for bed. I'm not really complaining because I am so proud of my husband for doing what he does but it is an odd transition. Anyone else feel that they don't see their S.O. much , ironically when you are living together??
Re: Married but no time w/ DH
Ugh, I feel the same way. My DH leaves the house at 9:30am for work and doesn't come home until 6:30pm. I'm on summer break from school and don't have a job so I stay home and do the housewife thing until he gets home. Then it's dinner, he plays video games, then getting ready for bed. I wish that he and I had more hubby/wifey time when he gets home, but after he works all day I feel like it would be selfish of me to have him not have his alone time.
Yup!! DH and I got married almost two months ago, and since the wedding, DH has started a new job. Just this week he got moved (now off of training) to his normal shift. I work 8-5 and he works 3:30p-11:30p. He also commutes to work, so he hasn't gotten home until midnight every night this week. For once, he is really happy with his job and I am happy for him, but I miss him! We keep telling each other that we'll have to make the most of our weekends and the little time together that we do have!
While this is all still new to me, I can't offer much advice. But, I understand what you're going through!
my DH is also a cop, we never see each other. He doesnt have steady days off, so they rotate throughout the week. I work a regular M-F 9-5 job. His shift is 2pm-1030pm, but he usually works late. He also commutes pretty far so if gets off work on time he isnt home until midnight so i'm sleeping. He could come home from work anywhere between midnight and 4am.........
We might get a night or two during the week to see each other and every couple of months a few weekends but his days off rotate to them.
We've been together 12 years and married for 2. So i'm pretty used to the schedule and am very independent because of it. Luckily I live close to my parents and siblings and we hang out alot and I make time for my girlfriends. Some days are harder than others.
That's a lot more than we get together! We have dinner together 2 or 3 nights a week. We have days off together one day a month (otherwise his days off are during the week while I'm at work). I rarely see him on the days he works because he's asleep when I leave and gets off at either 9 or midnight (the later I'm asleep when he gets home). It's definitely a change from when we were both in school/working 8-5 with the same days off! I have a Tues-Sat workweek and his days off rotate so I always look forward to the days I have off when he's working a late shift because that means we're actually awake and home at the same time...even if all he did today was talk to me for 5 minutes, shower/get ready and leave...it's something.
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THIS. This is exactly what we're doing right now. He's at work, I'm doing "chores" and making dinner-- which has been kind of fun, actually... I'm learning a lot and enjoying that aspect of housewifedom. He gets home late (working overtime most of this month), we eat, he plays games and I... mess around on the internet. It's kind of dull-- I know, not every day can be thrilling. But I can't help but be a little nostalgic for those first few months of our dating relationship. Not sure what to expect this fall, when I'm back at work (we were married at the end of May, so all of our married life, I've been on summer vacation!!!).