Compulsive liar

LiebeMama

Anyone know of a husband or wife that is a compulsive liar?

DaringMiss

My first boyfriend was a compulsive liar.  He literally seemed incapable of telling the truth.  He would lie about everything.

I am friendly with all of my past boyfriends and lovers.  He is the only exception.  Just the thought of how he jerked me around and screwed with my feelings makes me feel dirty and stupid. 

sapphireblue

No but I used to have a friend who was a compulsive liar. 

Eventually her boyfriend of several years sat her down and talked to her about it. He really worked with her to get her to change it. I lost touch 15 years ago but I saw her on Facebook and it looks like they've now been together over 20 years (met freshman year college). So I guess it worked.

She also cheated on him and he found out and they worked through that... 

TarponMonoxide

I know of somebody who has been a pathological (I think that's the term you want) liar since about 7th grade.

He's lied about anything and everything --- pathological lying comes from immaturity and insecurity --- and he is still at it, many many years later.

If you have a spouse that's a pathological liar, don't stand for it.  He's immature and insecure; he needs counseling and stat.

Besides, why should you live under a sword of Damocles -- you don't know when he's telling the truth and when he's lying.

abbitha7

My cousin is a pathological liar. He will go to any lengths to cover up his lies with more and more lies. I think now our family is finally figuring it out after he skipped my wedding to visit his boyfriend in California, but told us he was in the hospital, worrying everyone sick until we found out where he really was. He has lied and tricked people into giving him money, sometimes in large amounts.

 I'm not sure I believe that a pathological liar can change. It's a sign of severe immaturity and unhappiness. In my experience, the lies start out small and end up ginormous and overwhelming. You can never know if they are telling the truth or not. I wouldn't believe my cousin if he told me what he had for breakfast. If your spouse lies constantly, he needs serious help.

kellbell1919

Nope.

 

I know a few guys whose wives would say they've compulsive liars.  Really they just are hiding *** from their wives, in particular, their girlfriends.

francophonia

A girl I  was friends with and briefly dated in high school was a pathological liar. She just couldn't stop herself. She lied about her family, about her work, about her interests, about her lifestyle. She told me she was a vegetarian and I could find her eating chicken wraps. She said she was deathly allergic to milk, but she ate ice cream and cheese all the time. I remember being very upset one night and bawling my eyes out in her lap and she "received" a fake phone call from her mom, saying her phone was on silent, pretending she was asking her to pick up milk. Then 10 seconds after she pretended the call ended, her phone actually rang, really loudly.

 I confronted her several times about it and she'd either get angry and defensive or start crying and say she couldn't stop. I suggested therapy and she said she was going, but of course she was lying. I think you can see how that one ended.

aruss1

I once dated a guy who was a compulsive liar. He lied about everything you can imagine.  He even went as far as to steal diamond earrings from my parents house and then lie about it saying he didn't know where they could have gone. I got him to admit after we broke up that he pawned them for money. Well that was the last straw.  Turns out he had an alcohol and drug addiction that was pretty bad and I just didn't want to admit that he was lying to me the whole time.  It was my own fault for ignoring the warning signs.  Long story short, anyone who cannot tell the truth about themselves is insecure and should not be in a relationship.  Run for the hills!