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God, this is so frustrating!
I was just looking at an article about building a home gym for $100, and my husband glanced at what I was doing out of curiosity. He rolled his eyes and commented on how ridiculous it was.
He's an inherently lazy person, and I'm a very vain person. I'm extremely sensitive about my weight. If I don't weigh in a weight range that I've given myself, I'm miserable, even if it is just a little bit over. Fitness and health is very important to me.
We've been together for almost seven years, and just recently got married. He has known that fitness is important to me, yet he doesn't seem to care! After his snide remark, I reminded him that fitness is extremely important to me. To which he rolled his eyes again and said, "I heard you." Sure, you heard me. Why do you keep making such hurtful comments, knowing how sensitive I am?
It makes me wonder how he'd react if I started crying instead of angrily repeating myself.
Re: God, this is so frustrating!
I'm with Allie. There's caring about health and fitness and then there's an unhealthy caring about weight. I'm getting the vibe of the latter from your post (comment about freaking out about not being in your weight range, the stress you're repeatedly putting on health/fitness and your comment about vanity).
It's possible that your husband is a. being rude about your gym idea because he's not interested or b. he's tired of hearing you obsess about your weight. I'm not sure which it is.
Having hung around the Health & Fitness and GIS boards, I've noticed that many people who are into fitness and eating well are in it for the health benefits. They just want to be healthy. Sure, they'd like to stay trim, but that's definitely a secondary desire compared to being able to run a great race or simply feeling good about themselves.
We've talked about it, and everything is better now.
I have had issues about my weight in the past, and I'm terrified of it happening again. I don't want to feel/look like crap again. I want to eat right and exercise, and look and feel good. I want to be comfortable in my own skin. If it were muscle weight, I wouldn't be upset.
I can't go down that road again.
I'm glad you were able to talk and work it out. That being said, I know you said you wouldn't be upset if it was muscle weight, but there's no way to know, just based on the scale, if it's muscle or fat. Even if it is fat, you shouldn't be miserable just because of a few pounds. I do agree with PPs that it could be worht talking to your doctor about
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Seems to me like you're getting "health and fitness" confused with numbers on a scale. You can be healthy and fit in any "weight" range. Not some arbitrary number you have given yourself in your head as fat/skinny. Have you ever gone to counseling? It seems like some individual counseling could help you work on ways to be healthy instead of focusing on the number that scale shows.
In regards to your post, you knew your husband was like this the entire time you dated him, no? Why did you expect him to change now?