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1 month
I've been married one month today and it's amazing the new things I'm doing now! Having our own house to take care of, cooking( which is crazy for me because I don't cook) ..my husband says its good so hopefully he's not just saying that..ha ha..then there's cleaning a whole house..I always helped my mom but never realized how much went into cleaning..it's a workout! I've been lucky to have been raised by great parents so I have a pretty good idea on what to do, but still will be learning and adjusting to my new life!
Any other new or fun experiences?
Re: 1 month
Did you live with your parents before you got married? How old are you?
I could not agree more!! I used to be so worried about keeping everything perfectly cleaned up until I realized it was taking away some of the little time we had home together away from work. Now, there are things I just choose to ignore (even if the little voice in the back of my head is telling me to straighten up or organize them) and there are other things we work on together to save time and still spend time together. My mom cleaned everything around the house because she was a stay at home mom but I got lucky with my H because both his parents work so he already had the example that he had to help out. It's definitely a balance and takes a little time to figure out who will do what (we learned that he hates dishes so I do those and he does laundry) but having all that already established makes everything so much smoother when children come into the family.
Samboni has given you good advice.
If you are a stay at home wife (not mom) get him started helping you out in little ways. Wash after dinner dishes together, if you go to a laundry mat have him do the heavy lifting, he puts his dirty cloths in the hamper, help clear the dishes from the table (all the little things). This will make things much easier for you if you are a SAHW and you wont be driven crazy by his lack of help later or when kids come. You are not his mom and do not nee to baby him to be a god wife.
Since you probably married young you may not of known each other for long. Over the years you will discover so much about each other. For example as you browse Netflix he will get excited about a movie you never heard of or watched. Ask him about his memory of it, he may have a interesting or sweet story. It's also the quirks that make each of you you. Have fun and roll with the punches (good and bad).
I have been married 31 days! My husband and I bought a house last summer. He works fulltime and sometimes overtime. He is a really hard worker and not much of a fan of cleaning. Over the pass yr I had busied myself with school (which I took a break from to continue planning our wedding), planning my wedding, and workiing. I am working part time right now. I figure in my spare time I can try to reorganize and clean the house while he is working. We are making progress. There are days when he cleans and orgnanizes while I relax and vise versa. There are also some days where we clean together. I do however believe I should make a conscious effort to clean and organize as much as often.
I cooked last week which I don't typically do. Maybe if I start cooking once every two weeks then go to 1 every week and so forth. I have taught my husband how to cook certain recipes.
As far as new experiences, I have done most of the name change process with an exception of some minor things which I will take care of tomorrow since my SS card just came in.