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what is wrong with my sex drive?!?! :(
ok so me and my man have been together for 3 1/2 years. we have had our rough times but we started dating when i was still in high school (im now 21) so we are both still young and finding out who we are and what we want. I have been on the shot, the patch, the ring, and now loestrin 24 as a form of birth control. once i started on birth control my sex drive crashed! I told my dr the of course said no thats not a side affect. a year ago i was put on anti depressants, and while i was depressed our relationship wasnt going well, so we hardly had sex. now that im off the antidepressants and "happy" our relationship is going great! we are moving in together in a few weeks and i started counseling for my anxiety. so our relationship is good! but.....my sex drive SUCKS! I stopped taking the pill about two weeks ago to see if that would make it come back, but so far nothing. Im not sure if its just b/c i have such bad anxiety and cant relax enough to even think about sex or what. but its been hurting our relationship, he is starting to get insecure. I need a fix, any ideas or comments please I want to have SEX! lol everything works in the bed room but its hard for me to even get in the mood, and then during i feel rushed because i have so much other stuff to do.
Re: what is wrong with my sex drive?!?! :(
Maybe try getting in a regular workout routine..?
Definitely work out if you're not. I'm on BCP and anti-anxiety medication, both have decreased libido as side effects. I work out every day and have a fantastic sex life. Additionally, talk to your boyfriend about this. First communicate that it's not him so get those insecurities out of his system. Second, you need him to be patient with you... putting more pressure on you is not going to help matters. Third (and maybe this only applies to me), ask him to take his time with sex. Lots of foreplay, kissing, rolling around, etc... He needs to help you get there, he can't just stick it in when he's ready.
Also I recommend masturbating on your own... You go at your own pace and get used to your body and what gets you going. **If** you're open to it, watch porn with your guy. Obviously it aids in getting you horny but it's also fun!
Be patient, communicate with your BF, try new things and you'll get back into a rhthym. Good luck.
There are other forms of birth control. You aren't limited to just hormonal birth control. You can do the diaphragm or cervical cap. You can use condoms.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/all-access/my-method-26542.htm
Go ahead and read up on other methods and see which one you might want to give a try.