Is this sad?

humbird9

We just got married, and I kn ow we are not in any position to have a baby yet. Right now we are saving up for a down payment on a house and I will also be in school until then. (i'll have my masters at that point). But lately all I have is baby on the brain, like serious baby fever! Like so bad, that I already know exactly how I want to set up the nursery. We have already planned to start buying nursery stuff in 3 years to get a head start and we plan to get pregnant when we get a house. My husband is getting on to me for planning to far ahead

kharley

You sound exactly like me!! I wanted to start buying baby stuff and I already knew everything that I wanted; even though we don't want kids for another 4 years. I think its completely normal. Everyone around me seem to be having babies and  they were soo cute and I just had to have one. But I calmed down and realize that having a baby right now was in our best interest, especially once I found out how much daycare costs. Trust me, its just a phase and you'll get over it. Once you have your house, you'll be filled with decorating ideas and babies will be off your mind.

mw0347977

I've had the same feelings! I think it's normal when you first get married though (at least I hope!) It's really hard to stop thinking about though, but my husband's the same way and we are too saving up for a house and need to get out of school! Can't wait to have kids though! : )

hesakeeper

At least you'll be more prepared than those that don't have a plan, right? 

I've had babies on the brain a little bit (and we won't be trying for a few more years) but what I do is start getting an idea of expenses - even though I plan to buy used items, and hope to receive gifts at a baby shower, I am starting to keep track of how much everything baby-related will cost (including health insurance!) and plan for those expenses. If I plan for brand new everything then I'll hopefully save money when I do end up buying things used or whatnot. 

Sewilson33

First comes marriage, than comes a baby right? It doesn't have to be so close together though. You will be surprised how much you will cherish these days as newlyweds and just you two. Maybe you should sit back and make a list of all the places you and DH would like to visit or some goals you would like to reach before you have a baby. (like finishing your Masters) That would be 10,000x more difficult with a newborn. Plan a vacation instead of a nursery and see how that slows down your baby fever.

EmilyK1116

I don't think that's sad.  If you're excited about something, it's natural to plan for it, even if you know now is not the best time.