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Fiancee being jerk about sex
So he feels like 2 or 3 times a week is not enough for him. This weekend it was Friday and Saturday night, then told me today I played him dirty because I went in to work an hour later then I usually do in the morning because he didnt get any night before. I think if 2 times a week is not enough he must have some problem...he sometimes gets livid slamming doors in the middle of the night when I refuse. He works 2nd shift gets home about 11pm, then comes in after midnight wanting some when I have to get up at 530 am and my job involves walking outside all day and Im just exhausted. He is here in the morning with the kids they usually get up around 8 or so and he thinks he is getting less sleep then I am because of kids therefore I shouldn't get more sleep then he does. I usually am in bed no later then 10:30.
Re: Fiancee being jerk about sex
Holy cow...RETHINK this person!
...he sometimes gets livid slamming doors in the middle of the night when I refuse.
This is not normal behavior and this is not how full grown adults act.
In fact, skip rethinking him and run like hell.
The slamming doors is scary, no matter what time of day or night this is happening. This anger problem of his can very easily turn into a physical one.
Run like hell.
And do it TODAY.
You have kids together? If you've been together a long time, you should know how he is, if this is normal behavior, I would leave. If his behavior is new, maybe something's bothering him and you should talk to him about it. My DH would like to have sex twice a DAY and that's too much for me so obviously it doesn't happen, if he were to slam doors or be pissed, he'd be sitting on the curb.
No one should demand sex from you. No one should get mad when you refuse.
Unacceptable.
Imagine being stuck with this pig until the last kiddo turns eighteen.:( Very sad.
I get being disappointed, but that is ridiculous and scary. Like PPs said, I'd run like a bat out of hell. He sounds like a time bomb waiting to explode, and you don't wanna get caught in that.
Bold: That's an odd thing to say....lots of people have sex more than twice a week, so does that mean that those people have problems?? Some could say that having sex only twice per week is a problem. If he was wanting sex like twice per day, every day of the week, then I'd agree with you that maybe he has a problem.
Italic: Thats very strange behavior. My H gets cranky if I turn him down, which sometimes is for good reason (tired, have to get up early) but he doesn't get violent.
Have you and your H ever talked about the frequency of sex each of you want to have and maybe come to some kind of compromise?
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
She and this pig are NOT MARRIED.
And are you serious? COMPROMISE with this lunatic?
No, you run like hell.
he sometimes gets livid slamming doors in the middle of the night when I refuse.
and you are marrying him in a few weeks...thats awesome! wtf is wrong with you?
And he's in a pissing match with you too over who gets the most sleep?
Why do you want this piece of garbage???
He has to be doing irreparable damage to the kids -- why do you find it acceptable for them to have this shithead as a father figure?
Oh it gets even better. Seriously, stay away from this guy, DO NOT speak with him, DO NOT give him a chance to crawl his sorry ass back into your life. Stick with it. He's a creep, a total loser, a shitty father and husband. He's gross.
Yikes.
Thank your lucky stars you were done a favor.
Keep safe and keep well. I hope he doesn't know where you are.
Listen to this advice!!
hoping for an update...
wonder if lover boy i8s back and wedding is going on or op got real smart real quick
I too and wondering if OP is really going to leave him. I recognized her name from a wedding post on TK....the wedding was apparently called off on July 20th-ish and from then on, she's been posting WR stuff on TK (asking for limo recommendations etc) so I'm guessing her leaving this guy is just temporary, and she will probably go back to him since she's done that in the past...which is unfortunate since clearly they should not be getting married.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
yeah no surprise there..im actually doubting it all at this moment
why if you cancelled a july 20th wedding...would you need limo recs? even if the pushed back the date...wouldnt she have already known this type of info since original date was so close?
yeah no surprise there..im actually doubting it all at this moment
why if you cancelled a july 20th wedding...would you need limo recs? even if the pushed back the date...wouldnt she have already known this type of info since original date was so close?
yeah no surprise there..im actually doubting it all at this moment
why if you cancelled a july 20th wedding...would you need limo recs? even if the pushed back the date...wouldnt she have already known this type of info since original date was so close?