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QOTD 7/31/12
Does your DH ever travel for work or otherwise? What do you do when you're home alone to keep from feeling lonely?
I find that I have trouble trying to keep scenes from horror movies or murder mysteries out of my head. I'm doing OK this time around though!
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Re: QOTD 7/31/12
He travels for appointments for work but never outside of normal working hours. I occasionally travel overnight to Canada for work, and I'm going to China for a week in September for work.
So, I'm usually the one traveling, but when I'm home alone I turn the tv on and occupy myself with my computer. A lot of times I'll bake, too. I hate being home alone... I know that H will play video games to keep himself occupied.
H is gone a lot in the fall (end of the {fiscal} year events, etc). The most he's been gone was 1 month after we first started dating. I didn't miss him AS much then because our relationship was still so new. (not saying I didn't miss him) Since then he's been gone for a few weeks here and there.
I mainly occupy myself with hobbies and things that I normally might not do while he's home. Or I watch my television shows that he doesn't enjoy watching. I also tend to hang out with friends more to distract myself from him being gone. Now that we live together, I try to clean things that I normally couldn't clean if he were home and in the way (basement, bedroom, etc.)
He just found he might have to go to a nine week course for drill sgt school. I honestly don't know how I will react with him being gone. But I'm sure after a week or two I'll be fine.
Off and on during whole relationship we were on opposite work schedules. I would work 9-5 and he would go in at noon or sometimes 2pm and be there until things were done - that could be 8pm or it could be 1am. It was rough! The longest time he had that shift was around 6 months. I missed him so much! I would go to dinner at my parent's alot and spend time with my friends. I got in a routine of going to the gym after work, coming home and making dinner for myself and watching tv.
It was super weird to have him around when his schedule changed bc I was so used to be alone. I would never wish that type of schedule on anyone!
I'm the one who does some of the traveling. But when I'm alone I'll read, catch up on movies/tv shows, or find some new craft thing to do by looking online.
To keep from having horror scenes run through my head, I keep most entry ways (ie windows and doors) closed and locked at all times.
I've also not very discretely put swords in my car/house so my neighbors know I have them (same for the 2 guns I own). I may have also played with some of the swords outside for "training" so they can see I know how to use them. I'm sure my neighbors think I'm crazy because of it but they don't bother me.
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I do that too! I feel a little guilty about it, but it really does make me feel better in the empty house!
H is really only ever away for 1 or 2 nights tops and that is hardly ever. If he's away on a guy trip somewhere, I usually spend time with my parents.....stay at their house for dinner, etc. If he's only gone for one night, I usually just hang out at home by myself and enjoy the peace and quiet with a bottle of wine....watch all the cheesy TV shows I can't watch when he's around.
I don't ever get scared in our apartment. We live in a super safe neighbourhood and we are on the 3rd floor of our building.
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I'm like this out of the 5 years H and I have been together, he has been gone for over 3 of them. I'm used to it, plus I have my dog. I want to get a gun- I'm working on it.
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It's funny because we were long distance for the first 3.5 years of our relationship, but I lived with a lot of roommates then so I wasn't actually ALONE. I know we're in a safe neighborhood, but I still get scared. I think once we get a doggie it will be a little easier. My cat is pretty fierce but I don't think I'll hear him hissing at a predator if I'm in another room.
I've thought about getting a gun but I feel like they're supposed to be locked up for safety (probably more of an issue when kids are in the house) and then it seems like you can't really get to it in an emergency.
This isn't directed towards you, but anyone considering getting a gun.
A gun is pointless if you don't know how to use it correctly. It's a lot more than just pulling a trigger. You really need to think about what you're doing before you pull that trigger. Think of consequences, know the laws, etc.
Anyone getting a gun or thinking about getting a gun needs to get a gun they are comfortable with and able to use with ease (If you can't pull the slide back, how do you think you will put a round in the chamber when someone is coming at you?) Also, take a class to learn about self defense and handling the gun.
Ok, I'll get off my soapbox now. I just see way too many people who think a gun will solve all their problems, yet they don't know to use the thing or the laws behind them.
Rethany- I see the all to familiar Kids getting into their parents guns because they aren't properly locked or have a safety. I feel the same, for anyone wanting to get a gun, including me.
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I completely agree with this. I go to the range regularly to practice and own a gun that I'm comfortable using. H likes me to have it nearby when he's gone. The town we live in is very safe so I don't foresee any problems but better safe than sorry.
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I agree, my father has always had guns, for hunting & protection, and he's a fanatic about safety. I've always been taught that they aren't something to take lightly, and I in no way meant that I was just thinking about going down to the store and buying one for fun. I know you said that wasn't directed at me, just wanted to clarify
Haha exactly. H is currently gone. Will be for 4 months. It depends on the day, but it's just normal for me to go to work all day, come home, eat dinner, go to sleep. On the weekends I try to hang out with my friends as much as possible.
But yes, wine helps. It helps a lot.
This time I did a lot of cleaning. Our apartment is spotless!
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Well H just started his new job after the honeymoon and hasn't had to do any traveling yet. He wants to move up in the company so I forsee traveling in the future. When he goes out with his friends or something, I scrapbook, watch shows he hates and drink wine. It's great but I know I couldn't deal with it if it was too often.
I want to travel at least once with my company but it seems like everyone always comes to our office. Boo.