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Sex drive not so much...
I have no sex drive what so ever. Well, its there but not really. I had twins 8 months ago and since then I have not wanted to have sex much. DH and I have done it maybe a handful of times since then. I am not on any kind of birth control except the condoms that we use. I am only 21 and I feel like it should be higher than this. Before the kids, DH and I could not keep our hands off each other. DH has turned to the computer for pleasure and it turns me off even more.
How do I get my sex drive make to where I want to be doing it at least once a week and how do I get DH to stop with the computer and want to do it with me?
Re: Sex drive not so much...
This all sounds damaging to a once happy relationship,...it also sounds more than a little lonely for both......
Even tho' you have lost your desire you need to get involved with his lonely sessions in front of the computer,......Tell him that you don't feel like having sex but that you want to help him at least some of the time PROVIDED he turns off the computer.......Then get really into giving HIM pleasure,...make it different and as exciting as possible and TALK to him about it as part of your life together...be KIND and caring.
..........In return, make sure you get a full body massage at least a couple of times a week WITHOUT the pressure to have sex,....encourage him to pleasure your body completely and finish with a cuddle......
.....At least these measures will keep you both in tune until nomality hopefully returns.
This is all related to pregnancy. Sometimes it takes a bit longer for you to get back into flux.
See a doctor; perhaps he can supplement your hormone levels. Try an endocrinologist.
I don't know how much time your H is spending on the computer but if it is excessive to the point where it's interfering with your couple time and your family time, there may be a problem. It's possible to be addicted to gaming or whatever it is he is doing.
Have a talk with him about this. GL.