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Hi ladies, I need advice on personal life stuff
It has been a while since I started a new post, I know. You ladies are always so good at knowing just what to say when any of us needs a hand or a kind ear, and I need help. I will try to make a complicated story short. Here goes...
My grandparents had a home on a lake that my grandpa rebuilt with his own two hands. They have both died and his dream house has been vacant now for 41/2 years. It is owned by my dad, aunt, 3 cousins, my brother and myself. We want to keep it in the fam but thats leaving taxes and maintenance costs that are very high for an empty house. After a lot of prayer and consideration, Kevin and I are planning to move there in a couple months. It's about 5 hours away from our current house.
We have blessings from both of our families, but I don't know how to tell my best friend. I don't think I can do it. She moved to southern illinoise for college and her and her husband stayed there while he finished school. She's been wanting to move back for a couple years so we can be close and she can see my little man grow up. Monday, they found out her DH got a job only 3 hours from where I live. So they are moving ASAP. She is so excited to be close to me. And here I am getting ready to pack up and move 6 hours away from their new town. I have no idea what to say or how to say it. She's going to be devastated.
Even leaving details out, this is longer than I meant for it to be. I just feel terrible 
so excited for this move, I think it's what God wants for my little family, but at the same time, my heart aches. Can anyone offer advice? Or what would you do in this situation?
Re: Hi ladies, I need advice on personal life stuff
Oh, that's tough. I am sorry that an exciting time for you is weighing on you so much!
First off, congrats on the big move! It sounds exciting!
I think I would just rip off the band-aid and tell her. The fact that you are upset about this shows that she is special to you and that this is a hard for you. But at the same time, you need to put your family first. The timing stinks, unfortunately, now that she is moving closer, but she still would not be right around the corner. Hopefully she will understand this because she has had to make the same sort of decisions.
I hope this helps a little. Good luck! Keep us posted!
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Well, I decided to get it over with today... to rip the band aid off, like you said, Mel. Luckily, she was was somewhat understanding about it. It felt a little weird though. Not like she was really angry, more like she didn't care as much as I thought she would. There wasn't really any emotion one way or the other.
Maybe I'm just being overly sensitive about it. This has been a long and trying week for me.
I truly appreciate you guys listening. At least I got it off my chest. Guess I'll see where it goes from here.
I glad that it went ok for you. I am sure it was tough but good for you to not be holding the news in. I hope things work out for the two of you in the future.
Thanks for the positive thoughts
She has texted me a few photos of the house they are renting now. It's a cutie. I told her I would come down and visit soon, to which she said she is excited for, but didn't want to set a date. I'll keep trying.
We will probably move right after Kevin takes his boards, which are October 30th. Eeep! We decided to sell our house, if possible. I am excited, but there is sooo much to do!