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Hurting!!!
I am so sad for all of you out there right now. I voted NO of course. And it was my first time voting EVER! I really wish that my voting could have been the one vote to make this ridiculous proposition get turned down an unfortunately it was passed. And I am SO upset with DH right now. He came home after voting and would not tell me what he voted for. I knew it was bad right then. After a few hours he finally told me he had voted for McCain, which wasn't as bad as the next one. He voted yes on prop 8. I can't even begin to tell you how extremely upset I am with him and I can't even look at him. He knew how much it meant to me to have it turned down. Now I have to see my family and my friends suffer and cry. And I feel so ashamed because I have always been open minded. And it just really sucks that he did that. I guess everybody is entitled to their own votes, but how would you react. I didn't let him hold me last night. Actually I stopped talking to him completely last night and he stormed out telling me I should not be starting a fight over it. But I couldnt HELP it. I feel like I have been stabbed in the back by my own husband.
Am I overreacting?
On a different note, I am sorry to all of you out there and I gope one day this state will learn tolerance and not be so ignorant and full of hate and discrimination. One day it will happen.
Re: Hurting!!!
He is entitled to his vote, and we appreciate yours. If he knew how important is was to you, he shouldn't of mentioned his vote to you. I wouldn't of if I was him.
However, he did.
You will need to talk w/ him, and explain to him why this is so important to you, and the world. You need him to understand why. It won't change his vote, but it may help you. I would be VERY upset if someone knew my values, married me, and then bluntly said that. I don't think you are in the wrong, you two just need a heart to heart.
well, my position is a bit different but I would be pissed - and he woudl have to explain to me exactly why he voted the way he did before i spoke to him again.
i dont think you're wrong to me mad at all...but of course i'm the girl who didnt speak to my dad for MONTHS after he voted for Bush.
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I really do appreciate your vote. I am sorry you and DH had to fight about it though.
The PP had some good advice so ditto rikkiandjulie
I just felt very hurt by it that's all. And I couldn't sleep last night because I kept thinking about how to talk to him without being rude against his opinion and making him mad, but since I am upset I think I will bow it and say the wrong thing.
I just really thought he was more tolerant than that. And even months ago he was saying how it shouldn't matter if somebody wants to get married. I feel like he betrayed me or something becuase of what he would say. And actions speak louder than words sometimes.
wow ... u really have a heart that thinks of everyone else besides you . i have read different ones by you and u are worried about makeing alot of mistakes by speaking your voice .
sometimes you have to . it seems like you are very very open minded and the rest of the family are semi to closed minded . im sorry you have this to deal with . i really dont have anything bad to say eather way i didnt vote cause i didnt know who was good and bad for us . i dont watch to much tv .
but over all what ever you believe should not bother others they should love you no matter how open minded you are . they should not be rude and say anything to you . im so sorry if you ever need to chat messege me ill chat with you . i have yahoo too if you would like to chat there
willie in ohio