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No kids for us! how about you?
Mu hubby and I are 30, been married for a few months, been together 6 years...We have no plans and or desire for kids and I feel like we are the only ones! My parents both came from families with 3 kids and my brother and I are the only kids in the whole family!! I didn't grow up around "family" kids and I used to babysit when I was younger and just didnt like it..I'm not up for the resposability...anyone else not plan on having kids and why?
Re: No kids for us! how about you?
Nope. I don't want kids!! You aren't the only one
I am 31 and I have been with my bf for 6 years and we aren't even married yet, so really no babies for us...if anything it will be in another 5 - 7 years for us and if by then I might be too old! Oh well!
My husband and I just celebrated our first anniversary this May, but have been together 9 years this fall. He's 29 this month, and I'll be 30 next month. We would both be content to never have children, but I get worried that we will regret it later on down the road (like 20+ years down the road).
In another 3 years or so, we'll seriously reevaluate it. If we do have children, we definitely want only one, and I would like to give birth before I turn 35.
My husband and I are both 34, been together for 14 years. People always assumed we would finally have them but we are happy without.
All of our friends have kids or are pregnant but we still just don't have that "urge".
We love our lives right now, travel, have "toys", go out all the time, and do a lot of work with dog rescue.
My only fear is that I will regret it later in life and that actually haunts me more than I'd thought. But I can't see having a child just because I'm afraid I'll regret not having them down the road.
There will be no kids for us either and we're 24 and 25. Yes, we know we're still young but our minds have been made up for a long time. It's not that we couldn't do it, we just don't want to. Not a single aspect of pregnancy or parenting is appealing to me or my H. I'm so sick of everyone saying "you'll change your mind" "why did you get married if you don't want kids" "there's no way you can know that at your age". Even my doctor is getting on my nerves about it "you shouldn't let a man robb you of the joy of becoming a mother" or my favourite "why would your husband want you if you're not even going to try to give him a child"
My husband and I do not want kids either- he actually got a vasectomy earlier this year. I am 29 and he's 36. It was just never in either of our plans.
I love kids- I just don't want the responsibility. My mom is taking it pretty hard- but unless she wants to raise them it's not happening haha. My boss is taking it pretty hard too, he is very religious and has 4 kids, although he says he's ok with it, sometimes he makes comments about how kids change everything, etc. My aunt also says that a women were made to have babies. WOW! I guess we can but do we have to?
It's hard trying to defy society- I don't worry that we'll change our minds but I do worry about who will care for us when we get older, especially since my husband is older than me.
We are celebrating our 2nd anniversary. I am turning 30 and he is turning 39. No kids for us. We have 2 nephews and are happy doting on them. All of our friends, family, coworkers keep asking us when we are having kids. It gets old after a while answering and explaning our choice not to have children.
I also have no wish for children.
Glad to see I'm not the only one out there.
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Eight years together (3 married) and neither my husband nor I want kids. That was our agreement from the get-go and nothing's changed.
I just have no interest in kids, no interest in parenting, no interest in the actual birthing process (yikes!) and no maternal urge around kids.
Like the OP, I didn't come from a big "kid" family. I (at 27) was the youngest person in my family until my sister had a kid a year ago. Also, my husband and I are selfish and want to spend money on ourselves, go out, go on vacations, and not plan life around kids' schedules.
As for the regret issue others have brought up-- wouldn't you rather get to that point 20 years in the future and regret not having a kid than get to that point and regret HAVING one?