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Legal nesties
I hope there are still some legal nesties around...
If so, how do you respond to friends who are always asking for legal advice? DH is a lawyer, and I have an oddball friend who has casually asked for a couple of things. First, she shared some workplace issues with me and later on Facebook had said she'd "just love" to hear what DH thought about the situation since this is one of his areas of specialty. I just ignored that request, and eventually the situation at her workplace resolved itself.
Now she says her husband wants to know if DH can look up someone's place of employment, they have a judgement against him (he's a contractor who shammed them and many others out of much $$$). They supposedly have a lawyer who is helping them with this, but "it is taking too long and it would help if your husband had access to look up where he works".
He does not have access to such information that he knows of. I can tell them that, but they keep coming with all these questions and requests. I could just ignore this request too, but in a way I would also like a polite way to tell them to stop asking for legal advice from him. He is not in private practice, and he is not interested in giving them advice.
I'm sure some of you have encountered this...any thoughts on what to say or do?
Re: Legal nesties
In your situation, I'd just say something like "oh no, that sounds like a tough situation. You know, DH isn't in private practice and his employer frowns upon giving legal advice/their malpractice insurance forbids him from giving advise in this situation/he doesn't have access to information to help you/he doesn't know that area of law/etc. I can ask him if he knows of someone who might be able to help you."
I am in private practice so it's different for me. If DH's friends/co-workers ask questions, he gives them my business card and tells them to call me. If people ask me, I either offer to set up a consultation so I can dedicate time to their problem or refer them elsewhere. Some people are pushy and I have to repeat myself a few times but they eventually get it.
Tired after a long morning of hiking and swimming.
Thanks all, that is great advice.
JennyK, I especially like the way you worded it. By the way, if you ever are interested in referrals to your legal business, please PM me with your business information and the types of work you do. We do occasionally get friends asking for referrals to attorneys in private practice, and DH does not really know any so I would be happy to refer them to you.