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Advice, please!
in Married Life
I am in desperate need of some unbiased advice (and will do my best to keep this short & sweet).
There are a lot of changes happening at my job and, as such, I feel very ready to leave and pursue another opportunity. My husband & I live about 6 hours from family, and since we have wanted to move closer to them before having children, we decided that now would be the time to start applying to positions. For about 4(ish) weeks, my husband & I have been applying to jobs in the city near our families. One of the jobs I applied to is a part time role that I would LOVE, and that would allow me flexibility when we have children in a year or two. It would also allow me to do other things I love, and because the cost of living is SIGNIFICANTLY less in the "new" city, we'd be able to afford me working part time.
I was called for a phone interview and then was invited for an in-person interview, which I had yesterday. I loved the staff, the environment, and the job very much & would love to take it.
HOWEVER, my husband carries our health insurance at his current job, and it wouldn't make sense for him to quit without another opportunity lined up. He hasn't received any bites (yet), so if I get this job my options are:
1. To live with my family and spend 1/2 the week working and 1/2 the week with my husband until he is hired at a new job.
2. To turn down the opportunity and move to the "new" city with him when he gets a full time job.
The risks are that it could take months for him to find work and living apart is certainly not ideal... OR, that if i turn down this role and he ends up with a job sooner rather than later, I will be kicking myself for turning this opportunity down - especially if I have trouble finding something later.
We are REALLY struggling with this. Either way, we're taking a risk - but which has the better odds?
To add to this, his parents are STRONGLY opposed to us living apart and have said some unkind things about me (to him) regarding how selfish I am being for considering this position at all. The pressure from them concerns me because if I DO take this, I know they will be upset with me, and I do NOT want them to hold a grudge.
Any advice would be SO appreciated...
There are a lot of changes happening at my job and, as such, I feel very ready to leave and pursue another opportunity. My husband & I live about 6 hours from family, and since we have wanted to move closer to them before having children, we decided that now would be the time to start applying to positions. For about 4(ish) weeks, my husband & I have been applying to jobs in the city near our families. One of the jobs I applied to is a part time role that I would LOVE, and that would allow me flexibility when we have children in a year or two. It would also allow me to do other things I love, and because the cost of living is SIGNIFICANTLY less in the "new" city, we'd be able to afford me working part time.
I was called for a phone interview and then was invited for an in-person interview, which I had yesterday. I loved the staff, the environment, and the job very much & would love to take it.
HOWEVER, my husband carries our health insurance at his current job, and it wouldn't make sense for him to quit without another opportunity lined up. He hasn't received any bites (yet), so if I get this job my options are:
1. To live with my family and spend 1/2 the week working and 1/2 the week with my husband until he is hired at a new job.
2. To turn down the opportunity and move to the "new" city with him when he gets a full time job.
The risks are that it could take months for him to find work and living apart is certainly not ideal... OR, that if i turn down this role and he ends up with a job sooner rather than later, I will be kicking myself for turning this opportunity down - especially if I have trouble finding something later.
We are REALLY struggling with this. Either way, we're taking a risk - but which has the better odds?
To add to this, his parents are STRONGLY opposed to us living apart and have said some unkind things about me (to him) regarding how selfish I am being for considering this position at all. The pressure from them concerns me because if I DO take this, I know they will be upset with me, and I do NOT want them to hold a grudge.
Any advice would be SO appreciated...
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Re: Advice, please!
I'd take the job and live apart half the week.
For me, it's a complete no-brainer.