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Birth control ruining sex life!
Three weeks ago I went to the doc.. um.. Womankind because I had been bleeding with sex. Every time. Throughout the day with morning sex, and throughout the following day with nighttime sex. I have Implanon as current BC and even though it screwed my period completely up, I haven't had a problem with bleeding from sex. So after the lady checks me, she decides that its probably hormonal so she gives me two packs of low dose BCP (Low Ogestrel). Turns out, it works. I take the additional BC and wha-lah! no more bleeding!
Here's the problem. Ever since I started the BCP, I have NO sex drive. Not even a little glimmer of libido. My husband will try to get me aroused, and nothing. I'm not even self-lubricating. When we have sex, I'm bored (not his fault). It's not exciting for me.
So my question. I have an appointment Monday with Womankind to find a new BCP since this one is just as detrimental to our sex life (maybe more) than bleeding all the time. I have two days left of the pack before the sugar pills (tonight and tomorrow night). Should I start the second pack, or not? I'm afraid that if I don't continue, I'll start bleeding again!
Re: Birth control ruining sex life!
I find it very odd that it's the low dose vs higher dose BCP that kills your libido. I had the same problem with NuvaRing and was put on it as a last resort to help my endometriosis, but I decided it wasn't worth it (being as I'm a newlywed and a healthy sex life is VERY important to me). I was supposed to put a new one in a week before I went to see the OB/GYN, but I decided against it because I decided I would rather deal with the endo symptoms than not have my sex drive. I would ask yourself what's more important and follow your gut. Good luck!
Implanon (my current BC) is an implant in my arm. The new BCP is in addition to the constant stream of hormones coming from the rod in my arm.
I agree. I have the Paragard (non hormonal) and although my periods are pretty horrible (light,heavy,heavy,regular,light) I love it. I know sometimes women have issues with their OB/GYN not wanting to give them an IUD if they have not had children. I have never and will never have children and I had no problems getting an IUD.
Kristi and Kerry June 21,2008
I have the Paragard too, with no children/previous pregnancies and I love it! My periods are a bit more crampy and heavier but it's MUCH better than the stuff I've gone through with the pills/other HBC.
Okay, first - it's a gynecologist. If you can talk about having sex and bleeding from your vagina, you can say gynecologist. Seriously. Second, it's voila... not wha-la! Argh.
Okay, Implanon is a progestin only form of a bcp. It does not have estrogen. Estrogen regulates your cycle. When on progestin-only birth control, you will bleed oddly. It sucks. I've been there.
Birth control of any form messes with your sex drive. I think it's strange that you are essentially "doubling" up on birth control right now. I'd probably have the Implanon removed and try another progestin-only form of bcp if that's what you want. You can also try other dual pills (unless there's a reason for progestin-only like high blood pressure or migraines) to see if those don't decrease your sex drive.
First of all, it's Womankind. The woman I saw is an ARNP. Nurse practitioner. Not a doctor. Not a gynecologist.
Second, voila is great if that's what you choose to use. I didn't. I chose wha-la. Get over it.
We didn't remove Implanon because that's a $200+ procedure, and $600+ to put it back in, and not to mention this was just a trial run to see if the problem was hormonal. Apparently, it is. As stated previously, I have an appointment Monday to discuss other options.
Why didn't I choose Paragaurd? The $200 removal of Implanon, plus whatever the cost would be for insertion of Paragaurd. I'm uninsured as of now.
I decided to not start the second pack. This will be day one of no BC pill.
If you're going to have a know-it-all attitude about things, don't ask questions here. We're all trying to help you & make suggestions. Get off your high horse, and stop being so defensive.
You left out a lot of information such as: you're uninsured, you're apparently not looking for suggestions even though you wanted possible ways to increase sex drive (and a nonhormonal BC such as paragard can help with that!), and you are only going to give reasons why each person's advice simply won't work. Not to mention, the first line you said you went to the "doc" so we all assumed the "Womankind" meant gynecologist. *gasp! I said it!*
Your post came off as uneducated as far as roundabout terminology for your doctor, the fact that you didn't know the word was voila and that you are now on two different hormonal birth control pills in addition to Implanon.
We're just telling you what we're reading and can only respond as such.