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would you apply for this job?
Posted this on another board this morning, but haven't had much luck in getting feedback. I'm hoping you all might have some thoughts.
I know I've mentioned in other posts that DH and I are trying to relocate to be closer to family. We really have no support system where we live now, and we would like to start a family. I've been contacting people, applying to jobs etc. I've had a few leads, nothing concrete yet, but it leaves me hopeful.
DH came home last night and said that his boss wanted to put me up for a job at their company. It pays more than my current job, and is more aligned with what I want to do. If we weren't planning to move I would go for it without even giving it a second thought.
Taking this job would mean derailing my plans to move. We'd have enough money to start thinking about a family, but still wouldn't have the support we wanted in order to do that. I feel like it's the kind of job I would need to keep at least for a couple of years, and the longer we wait the harder it will be to move. But then I think about how hard it is to find jobs today, and can I really pass up this opportunity? DH really wants me to apply for it, which leads me to believe he's not as on board with the move as he claims to be. (This and jobs he has passed on applying for in the new city that would be great for him)
So basically my head and my heart are at odds on this one. Would you apply for this job or let it go and focus on moving?
Re: would you apply for this job?
Seems to me that you and your husband are at odds on this one. If your husband has passed on jobs in the potential town and is trying to point you to a job in his company, he isn't on board for the move. You guys need to have an honest conversation - without recrimination - so you can be heading in the same direction.
This. Maybe he's telling you he's not ready for kids yet. Maybe he's telling you he doesn't really want to live by family. Find out.
I think you should really talk with your husband about your future, sometimes men need to talk and agree on specific time frames. (Think of it as a timeline).
Now, how about you? Are you ready for kids? Or do you still have that little stone on your shoe regarding profesional life?
I would recomend you to answer those questions 100% honestly and have your husband do the same. When you have a kid you want the father to be there for you both all the way, so if he is not thrilled about it yet I would wait a little more to get him totally on board.
I agree, it doesn't sound like he is committed to the move. You should definitely talk to him and try to get on the same page as far as what you guys are looking for long term. If you think your DH would prefer to stay in the area maybe applying for this job would be a smart decision at least for the time being, you know?
Thanks for the advice. We have had the kids conversation plenty of times and we are both 100% ready except for the financial part.
I decided to go ahead and apply, because kids are never going to happen, nor is my career if I stay at my current job any longer. The move won't be off the table, but postponed if I get this job.