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is it even worth mentioning?
My DH runs a flagship store in NYC. He has been working hard preparing for a very big special event. Last night the event finally happened. I stopped by the store and saw him for a minute (it was still very busy). He told me it was a huge success and that he was going out with his team to celebrate.
I didn't realize it'd be such a late night partying. He didn't get home til 1:30am. My DH doesn't go out all that much, and I don't usually comment if he stays out late, since it's rare. But what bothers me is that I'd gotten some wine and was going to make a nice dinner to celebrate his big accomplishment at home with him. It was going to be a surprise, so it's not like he knowingly blew me off. Still I am a bit hurt he came home so late, after I was asleep so I couldn't even hear the details. I also was not invited to "go out with the team to celebrate".
I guess I can do the dinner thing tonight to show I'm proud of him...not a big deal, right? Would you mention that you would have liked to celebrate with him last night, or just let it go? I dont want to put a damper on his big moment.
Re: is it even worth mentioning?
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It was a huge night for him. I'm not surprised that he went out and lived it up. I might be slightly hurt that I wasn't invited to go celebrate with them, but I certainly wouldn't be upset about a dinner that was a surprise, he knew nothing about, and was planned on the evening of a very big deal that was probably going to be followed by fun.
Do it tonight. Don't make him feel badly.
Yeah, you ladies are right. I kinda felt that way too...maybe just let this go. It did hurt a bit that when I stopped by the store, he didn't say "hey, we're all going out later, you should come". But I guess since it was a work related thing he just wanted to go out with the people who helped make the event happen.
I definitely wouldn't want to be the Debbie Downer after an awesome event and be all "what about me?!". lol. I will do it up all fancy tonight and make an awesome dinner for celebration: part 2.
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All of this. He didn't know you were going to cook and it's possible he didn't know they were going out until after you left. I would be a little hurt as well but I also wouldn't want to put a damper on his accomplishment. saying something like jebbycakes suggested gets the point across in a non threatening way that still keeps the mood light.
Its worth mentioning! Just remember its not what you say it's how you say it! I recommend not saying it with words. When you make your dinner or if my post is an after fact keep this in mind...Go all out. Don't stop at just cooking dinner. You want him to know that his accomplishment meant just as much to you as it did for him. I recommend buying him a small gift or meneto to have as something he will always remeber that night. Put on his favorite perfume, wear a lot of his favorite color and express your love for him and his success. Don't mention the late night with friends just make him wish he had come straight home. I know true love is not all about sex but if you need a little more advice...We're here! Good luck with your plans and congrats to his success!
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