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DH not interested in sex
Hello I'm new to the nest and could use a little help. Me and my husband have been married for almost 9 mo but have been together 3 years. Lately he has not been interested in sex. It's only been about a couple months but we were usually having sex several times a month. We have two children (one together) and I have put on some weight since haveing our child but I'm not large at all (size 5ish).
He has also been going into work earlier and earlier. It used to be he would get to work about thirty minutes early, but now he is leaving to get there as much as 2 hours early.
I'm not sure whats going on. If he could be cheating on me, or if he is stressed and just doesnt want to talk about it. I've asked him a few times and he just says he is tired. But its even on his days off. Please if anyone could give me some advice about how to approach this.
Re: DH not interested in sex
Perhaps this is a rut of some sort --- remember, passion, and the amount of sex, in a marriage can tend to ebb and flow.
What you need to do -- and I cannot stress this enough:
Communicate with your spouse. It is one of the keys to a happy relationship.
Perhaps he's getting acclamated to the earlier working hours, and that is having an effect on your sex life.
Like I said, talk to him. Preface it with "honey, we are so hot together; I'd love it if we could have more sex than we are having right now" and then open the floor for him to add his input.