I've ruined my husband...LOLOL

lotusflowerONE

Ok...so after being called a *** dumpster...and trash talked to and about by my husband in other ways...I'm ready to walk away. I've been doing some research. I have a place to go, means to get there, etc. (in our home state), I've been told that if I sneak my children out of our home(I would have to in order to avoid a major confrontation with him)that he could legally charge me with parental kidnapping. I would NEVER keep the children from seeing their dad, but he's conniving enough to say that that was my intention for leaving with him. Plus, the judge would most likely rule in his favor because I acted hastily in taking the children from their home and familiar surroundings. What the hell am I supposed to do? This is total B.S.!!! Anyone in Ohio with a similar experience, please respond. I'm beyond bashing...so only respond if you intend to be helpful. I'm READY TO LEAVE HIM and his emotional/verbal abuse.

My2cents4u

Call a lawyer they can at least give you a free consultation. Also, document and get proof of his abuse. Copy all financial records.

lotusflowerONE

When we were separated for 5 months last year, I documented everything!!! I think it has been "misplaced" since our reconciliation. I do, however, have all the nasty texts he's sent me as of lately. The only financial records I have are his pay stubs from work and mine from when I was subbing last school year...if that's what you're meaning. At this point I can't afford an attorney, but I'm definitely calling one ASAP for advice. The situation isn't getting any better...I've come to realize that. Now...to get out with my kids and not be thrown on jail.

magsugar13

 I've been told that if I sneak my children out of our home(I would have to in order to avoid a major confrontation with him)that he could legally charge me with parental kidnapping

Let me guess who told you that?

Really?

and you believed it?

legal aid has free and sliding scale for people who cant afford a lawyer...look it up...and please look up your counties mental health clinic as well.

 

DaringMiss

Listen ONLY to a family law attorney in your area.  Do not listen to a single word that comes out of your husband's mouth, because he is probably wrong, not to mention, he does not have your interests at heart.  Your attorney will.

Get copies of your tax returns for the past couple of years.  Get copies of credit card statements and bank account statements.  IRAs and retirement accounts too.  Give a copy to a friend or mail them to a good friend.  Get a disposable cell phone and keep it charged in the car in case you need to make a quick get away.   

lotusflowerONE

Not sure if your comment about my counties mental health clinic was a shot at me, but I specifically remember asking that you not post a response UNLESS you intended to be helpful in this situation. And FYI...I was given this info by a friend of mine who's husband happens to be an attorney.

magsugar13

lotusflowerONE:

Not sure if your comment about my counties mental health clinic was a shot at me, but I specifically remember asking that you not post a response UNLESS you intended to be helpful in this situation. And FYI...I was given this info by a friend of mine who's husband happens to be an attorney.

first of all you dont get to choose who answers your posts...

2ndly i think you need counseling and a lot of it....so i gave you a suggestion to get yourself some help that you obviously need

so if you think that by suggesting counseling i was taking a shot at you...then i  guess i was...silly me i thought counseling helped people who needed it, you are obviously in a mess

you need to find a family lawyer...because according to your friend if i take my kids to my mothers house...im kidnapping them if i dont tell my H where im going. as long as you arent taking them out of the state, i do not think that is true.