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My initial advice is that it dies down. Dh worked full time while I was in law school, I know exams sucked for him, but he made his own friends and we developed a group of friends in the law school. He also made friends with a lot of law school spouses. I purposely chose a school known for quality of life and they facilitated a lot of activities for spouses so that was good. I do know about five couples who got divirced by the end of first year, but I think they had shaky foundations going in; people who got married straight out of undergrad, hadn't tested their relationship in the real world and had very unrealistic expectations going in. It can also be really difficult if the partner in law school doesn't handle stress well. I cried a few times while studying for the bar and exams and I was on the calmer end of the spectrum.
And then I saw that your parents are financially supporting you guys even though your husband is in grad school and I made a huge wtf face. If you're old enough to be married you're old enough to support yourself like adults. The legal market blows but a lot of my friends were able to keep finances in check by working as research assistants during the year, and working for firms in the summer 2L
I didn't see the part about her parents supporting them. But um wow. I wish mine would, but at the same time I don't think I'd like it. The reason I'm putting off my masters is not just because I don't know what I want to do, but also because I'm going to have to work full time to support my then-husband while he's in school.
Maybe it's just the way I was raised, but parents shouldn't be responsible for you financially after you're married. I mean I understand them helping with undergrad but really? Whether I got married or not, I'm getting cut off financially after I graduate with my undergrad degree. And I wouldn't change it.
I agree that if you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to be financially independent. But that's just my opinion. Everyone's different.