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rakle99

My husband buys me flowers when the ones in the vase die. We always have a bouquet of flowers in the house. I love them so much and he sees how much I appreciate them that it makes him happy to see me so happy.

However, there are things I wish he would do more of too. I think this is normal for any relationship. You may want to sit your husband down and tell him that while you appreciate what he does for you, flowers are very important to you and would be a way for him to express his affection. 

Sometimes writing a letter helps. I've only done it a couple of times, but it usually gets my husband's attention. I think it helps him because he can review what I've said over and over until it sticks. Good luck!

lpwhit

He has never bought me flowers because I told him I don't want them. I am not that big into flowers and I think it's a waste of money on something that will die in a week or so. I would rather have something tangible that I can keep and cherish or consume. He will pick up little things for me here and there if he goes somewhere and sees something that makes him think of me. I will take that over flowers any day.

cari2007

mstracener:

My husband buys me flowers about once a month but most guys just don't get why girls would want something so frivolous. If you want flowers, buy yourself some the next time you're at the grocery store and put them in a prominent spot in your house. When he comments, tell him you love having flowers around, and they're a simple thing that makes you really happy. Tell him it's just a girl thing. He should get a hint and buy you some in the near future. If he's competitive by nature, he'll probably try to top the flowers you bought for yourself (bonus!).

YES!! Buy them for yourself! My husband has bought me flowers once in five years. He shows his love in so many other ways, that flowers just don't really seem that important. He knows that I love fresh flowers in the house, but the man just never thinks about sending them. I buy them at the farmer's market here. I spend about $10 a week and always have a gorgeous bouquet in the foyer. And maybe one day, after he realizes how much you like them around, he'll surprise you at work with some.

random4180

He bought me a potted rose plant from a grocery store once, when I passed my road test. It just died this summer and I told him I want another one. That's the only time he's given me flowers and I'm okay with that. I actually liked that the rose plant he got me lasted so long- over 2 years! That's the kind of flower gift I like. I mean, I'd probably be blown away if he got me a bouquet but, honestly, if I want some, I can get some, lol. Usually I don't because our cats may try to eat them and that's not so good! 

Munin

Never...but he does sometimes buy me other things I want (like books). So, I buy myself flowers if I want them. It's not worth making an issue over it.

Kimbus22

Never.  Not once in 11 1/2 years. I asked him about it once and his response was, "Why would anyone pay money for something that does nothing and dies in 3 days?"

I had to concede his point.  Plus, the cats eat any plants in the house anyway.

chrisandsarahwedding

So far its been about 3 to 4 times a year. Not really any flowers "Just because". Its always for an occasion of some kind. Although I wish he would just go to albertsons and get them, because those proflowers ones I know are expensive..not worth it when we are trying to save money 

AndreeaB

lol. I had two serious relationship before I got married. Both men were big on flowers, so I was very used to receiving them: spontaneously, special occasions, whatever. Three months in to lucky number 3, I hadnt received any. Not even for my birthday. So i asked him one day, as he was driving me home, if he's the type of guy that doenst buy flowers....? He seemed shocked that I asked, and then asked "why?" I said, "because I like flowers, i like to receive flowers, and they show me that you think about me outside of moments spent together." Well, He now gets me flowers. Randomly, occasions.. etc.  yay! score! ha!

 I do recommend a book called "the five love languages" ---- it sounds like DH's love langauge is acts of service. And your's is "gifts"... Mine is "quality time".... but each person moves, talks, functions in a certain love language. You just gotta figure out what it is, and things will get better check it out.

almost-a-bride

My husband buys them all time. He will even send them to my office. He's really sweet. He actually brought me home flowers the other day as a thank you for taking his dry cleaning to the cleaners earlier that morning. It's the little things that count. My husbands awesome!