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Make new friends but keep the old...
I might be on the wrong board but here goes... So my husband recently
made new friends at work. It's awesome because many of the people he
used to hang out with live out of state now. My issue is that I feel a
little lost now because I'm in the same boat except I haven't
really made any new friends. I have maybe two good friends that I hang
out with and many of the others live out of state. Those two are both busy moms so it can be difficult to get together with them. Being able to make new friends might sound trivial and
like something I should have figured out by now but I'm a pretty
introverted, shy person and making friends seems so much harder as an
adult! As obligations go, I do work full-time but have a steady M-F
type schedule. Also, the hubs and I don't have any kids. Any ideas to
meet some new friends of my own? I feel like my marriage is wonderful but I'm stuck in a rut as an individual. Any suggestions are appreciated!
-Lovely
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Re: Make new friends but keep the old...
I've so been in your shoes! I've accepted that I'm an introvert, but it helps me to make "rules" for myself so I can help myself get out there and meet new people. One of mine when I moved to a new state was, never turn down an invitation unless I truly can't make it. The other was to make an effort to call someone or suggest going out to coffee or start a conversation in the break room at least once every few days. The last one is to stay off the internet as much as possible- I noticed that I was filling up all my free time talking to friends "back home" or chatting on message boards and forums because it was easier than hanging out with new people in person- and then I'd log off and still feel lonely.
Good luck! Hope some of that helped!
I can name oodles of things to do: coed tennis lessons, join a sports league (volleyball, tennis, softball, etc) if you're the athletic type, take zumba lessons, community choirs and community theatre, volunteer for a good cause, see what activities your house of worship has.
There's also adult school/night school classes and political groups.
Three months ago, my husband and I moved across the country from everyone we know and love. I've been there. Actually, I'm still kind of there, but a couple of things have helped:
Check our your gym or local community center (if you're in a small town like we are). Community centers often have book clubs, different kinds of group lessons, etc. Even if you're not really into working out, the classes at gyms are usually a great place to meet people. You can always meet them somewhere different the next time you hang out, and you're toning while you're at it! Bonus!
This may seem like a strange suggestion, but I've also found several volunteer opportunities on Craigslist. I've met some of my best local friends there.
Hope this helps!
I hope this is helpful...
Do the men that your husband hang out with have girlfriends/wives?? I would suggest seeking that out.
I kinda feel you though, I feel like my boyfriend is very developed as an individual and I am kinda struggling. He has very developed hobbies and I didn't realize that I don't really until he brought it up.