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how to train your puppy? with a twist...
So here is the problem. due to economic curcimstances we are leaving with my in-laws. But we just got a puppy(long story). well we are trying to house train due to the Quigley being an inside dog, and i have him on a schedule of when to take him out so he gets used to it. that is what ive read and heard from many people.
the problem is my mil has a dog also and feels that because her new grand furbaby is living with her and she has trained so many dogs in the past and i have grown up with outside dogs that she has the right no the experiance to take our dog outside whenever she feels like it. like when we put him on punishment for peeing or other such things and she hears him crying in his kennel that means she should take him out and play or pee.
it like she wont respect our way of teaching is not hers. and that since it is thier house they should teach the dog. it is driving me crazy!! dh doesnt want to interfere due to the fact that we are living with them has saved us from being homeless, which i love but i wish they would at least let us train our dog like he is ours not theirs.
any advice?
Re: how to train your puppy? with a twist...
Listen to her. You don't use the crate as a punishment and you don't punish a puppy for peeing in the house when it hasn't learned where he is expected to potty yet.
Why would you buy a puppy when you can't afford your own place?
ok well just to clarify we bought the puppy before my husband got fired from his job. and its not punishment for peeing its punishment for chewing cords and biting thier dog. not play biting, biting biting.
also sometimes its when we are trying to get him to sleep or other similar times.
You never use a crate for punishment. Period. A crate is a dog's happy place, his safe haven.
This is the board FAQs, with tips on house-breaking/crate-training, clicker-training, training basic manners, Nothing in Life is Free way of life.
https://sites.google.com/site/petsboardfaqs/home/training-and-behavior
Maybe I didn't make my question clear. Not asking advice on how I train the dog. In ask advice on how to not confus him. I'm sure it would be very confusing to have to different people telling you to do two different things all the time. That is problem at hand. When we first moved in and it was just me and my husband trainging him. He was starting to do wonderful!!! Since mil has Interfered. There have been more accidents more fighting between the dogs and more biting. I think it's because he is confused.
Let me give an example. She gets up at around 6am to get ready and go to work. So she takes out her dog. Well now she takes out our dog too. Well even when my husband worked he never got up that early so our dog is getting used to getting up that early and he shouldn't. Next we are keeping an eye on how much we feed him because I know you can really fatten a puppy too much if you let them munch all day whenever they want. Well she let's him eat her digs food and gives him More because he seemed sooo Hungary. Not health. Then we have been trying to train him with words like the books say but she just takes him out and talks to him About whatever she doesn't use the words. So when we take him We have to retrain the words.
How do I get her to stop so we can keep him on the same training method and schedule we keep not hers.
Um, talk to her?
How old is the puppy?
The general rule of thumb is that a puppy can only "hold it" as many hours as their month in age. So, your puppy should be going out every 4 hours. I'd continue letting her take the puppy out at 6 a.m., if you guys aren't getting up to do it.
First of all, you are misusing the crate terribly. As previously posted, you do not crate your puppy for punishment. All you're teaching him is that the crate is bad, so of course he cries and doesn't want to be in there. That's more confusing for him than you MIL taking him out and playing with him. When he bites you, yelp and walk away from him.
Second, talking to a puppy is not going to undo your training. You can still reinforce simple commands. Your "retraining" is likely just the need to reinforce the commands. Learning how to clicker-train would help, as would using hand signals in addition to a word.
Finally, umm, your MIL is keeping you and your puppy from being homeless, and it sounds like she actually knows her stuff on this one. She's getting up and going to work while you're sleeping in? Maybe she's not the one who needs to adapt. Put him in your bedroom if you don't want him out at 6 am (which is good for him, by the way, unless you're taking him out at 2 am it's cruel to expect him to hold it that long).
Move out.
Puppies need consistancy. Shes doing you a huge favor by letting you live there. Either be a gracious houseguest, or find somewhere else to live.
Have you seen my monkey?
I have to agree with PP's - you may not have asked specifically for anyone to comment on your use of crate training, but by blatantly advertising that's you're horribly mis-using the concept, you'll get said criticism.
If you're genuinely worried about confusing the dog, I would believe that you'd read the link PP provided and learn about crate training. I think your mis-use is more confusing than the difference in instruction overall.
Yep! I wish I had someone else to get up and let our dogs out at 6:00am when they want to potty! And they aren't even puppies.