Roles Reversed

mancila60

I know I'm a busy poster today!

This is a weird situation for me and honestly I have no one to go to for this except you ladies. Of course I know most of us have baby fever myself included. H and I have had this plan for a while of waiting until our 1 year to start trying. Reasons why:

1. H or I should have a better job by then

2. Better insurance

3. My MOH is getting married Nov 2013 and we will have to travel. We don't want to do that with a 2-4 month old and I also don't want to be about to pop.

Anyways things have been great with this plan and of course everyone keeps saying just let nature make it happen. Which is fine by us but still. We don't use protection at all so if it did happen we were okay with that. But since MIL passed away H has been saying now that he's ready. Granted this was not an immediate response this has been more of a conversation in the last 2 weeks or so. And I have always been ready. If it was up to me we would have been trying on the HM. 

SO now he's ready to make a baby but I know that would put the due date for mid summer which still gives us 4 months or so before MOH's wedding which is right around the time for her showers and parties and I would feel bad leaving H with the baby so much and also leaving the baby in general. H understands all of this but says he is still ready. Financially we could handle it even without the better jobs as MIL left us with quite a bit of money and then when added to what was already in savings it has given us a good little nest egg.

Anyways I'm at a loss of what to do here. My heart/body says just let it be natural don't try but don't prevent and if it happens great if not that's okay there is still time. But my mind says no wait until at least after the first of the year which is just a few months. Please tell me you have some advice?!?!?!

mandi921vh

I think only you can make this decision, and I think you have looked at the pros and cons to each decision... I guess it all depends on how you feel about having a baby right before, or soon after your MOH's wedding. I mean you can't plan a baby around something like that, but at the same time you have to do what you want, and think worst case scenario... such as baby is due around wedding and you won't be able to fly, or you have the baby within a few days before the wedding... how would you do that?

AurorasEnvy

I guess it just depends on how important MOH's wedding is to you guys.  If it were me, I'd wait personally, but that's easy for me to say because I'm not itching to have a baby.  I guess I'd just say let what will happen, happen....you can't plan these things out.  Sometimes people get pregnant despite their best effort, and sometimes people take a very long time to get pregnant despite trying so you never know what is going to happen!