Family Matters
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DNA Testing....
Hey Ladies,
I have a question....is there a way to find out DNA test results that was taken over 30 years ago?
Situation is: although child support was paid for this child (who is now an adult)...the so called father remains that this child is not his....the testing was supposedly 80ish % probability that he could be the father (which did not say he was or was not) the father and therefore was made to pay child support.
I'm not clear on what the percentages are to say what's what....wonder where I could find that information as well. Any ideas?
That's the nutshell of it all....so if you have information or can provide feedback, please do so....and I thank you in advance.
Re: DNA Testing....
Ya...I second that question.
I imagine she wants to accomplish some true closure and if the adult child knows this then I would imagine it has hit them in some way.
There are people in the world who were wrongly accused for a crime that happened 30 years ago and all the sudden a dna test proves they were innocent. So yea obviously some people got their hands on dna tests from way back.
But I don't know if your situation would allow you to do the same. Anytime I have a legal question like this I just call/drive to a family court.
30 years after the fact... I don't know if you really want to go there. Perhaps you are looking for closure; that's my guess. GL in whatever you wish to do.
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What do you think will happen? I imagine two different scenarios:
1) The DNA test PROVES that the "father" is indeed the biological parent of the now-adult child.
The "father" is not all of a sudden going to embrace their "child" and exclaim "I was wrong! I am so happy to find out that you really ARE my child!!! The relationship is not going to transform into a true father-son / father-daughter loving bond.
2) The DNA test proves that now-adult-child has a different biological father than the person who paid child support all of these years.
The "father" is going to have a huge "I told you so" moment, and will feel entitled not to bother with the child again. Their relationship will only deteriorate - it will not magically improve just because the truth is now out. The relationship will not change from "father-child" to "adult-friend"
The "child" could then set out to find their "real" bio-father, but unless the mother is forthcoming, I'm not sure how that would happen. The adult-child is not guaranteed to have a great relationship with their "true" bio-father.
My advice would be to take the relationship with "dad" at face value. This is someone who was not invested in the adult-child emotionally. I would cut ties and not feel obligated to nuture a relationship with them. Instead, I would recommend the adult-child invest in relationships / friendship / family who are loving and supportive, regardless of DNA ties.
Anyone involved in the court dispute could have a copy of the results in their home. Or the laywer representing the mother or father should still have a copy in their records - if they would release them. Or the family court who issued the child support payments might still have the documentation on file - and you can request to see the court file under the Freedom of Information Act. There may even be a lab or doctor's office that still has records of the results - which might be in the court documents.
Current DNA testing is usually over 99% reliable, so a re-test would be more accurate. I think you can buy a kit and just swab the inner cheek of both parties and get the results mailed - or a t least use the services of a place who DNA tests.
Bahahahahaha...I was just about to say the same thing!