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High sex drives?
Just sayin...seems like no one on here has a good sex drive. I know I'm young, but I'm pretty much into sex...whenever, planned or unplanned...
It's just ... you know ... a good ole time 
Re: High sex drives?
I lost my sex drive at the beginning of the year because of the birth control I was on, but I got off of it and am back to my crazy high sex drive self again.
Glad you don't have any problems in that area.
I am guessing a lot of women on these boards are not into sex for a variety of reasons:
Inexperience (this too will pass)
Not being in tune with your body: why masturbation is necessary. That's the only way to find out what makes you orgasm and what makes you feel good.
Hormonal in some cases -- BCP, pregnancy are 2 reasons
Rigid upbringings (why too much religiosity is "no good" -- the born again/Christians/megachurch goers are told that sex is ONLY FOR MARRIAGE and that is how it is.)
And something seems to fall flat once a lot of thse couples are married. Many newlyweds are complaining about very low sexual frequency or no sex at all. I am not quite sure what the connection is there.
I think I def have a high sex drive. But I was on Lupron for endometriosis earlier this year and that kind of threw me off a bit. But we just moved in about 6 months ago, and I typically can't stop prancing around naked until he pounces on me.
But to add to Tarpon's point...I think mine fluctuates with the level of stress I have. The more stressed with my job and xyz the more I crave a release, if you will. But sometime he's just not ready and his mind is else where so you've got to settle for taking care of yourself. Just have to be comfortable with your body in general and know your needs, wants and when you want them.
FWIW, Tarpon, I'm a Christian and H and I did save sex for marriage. Our religion has not caused any problems in the bedroom, though I do realize that some people feel residual guilt even when it's 'allowed.'
I agree that a lack of masturbation is frequently a big part of women not enjoying/wanting a lot a sex, and of course, some religions also teach that that is wrong/sinful. I don't believe it is, myself. Knowing your own body and responses is extremely important to having a satisfying sex life.
Haha --- the Catholics were big on teaching maturbation as wrong. They missed the boat on a lot of things. Billy Joel's Only The Good Die Young didn't say "you Catholic girls start much too late" for nothin'.:)
Women have been taught "good girls don't." Women's Lib did nothing to get rid of double standards.
Yea because those Catholic priests totally are the moral back bone of the religion... lol
In all seriousness though, my mom taught me as I grew up about sex. Sex was definitely meant for someone I trusted and cared for. Masturbation was something to explore and indulge in. Sex & masturbation is a wonderful outlet for stress, anxiety, horny-ness (duh), depression, etc. Why wouldn't you want an orgasm!?
*Obviously this means I have a sex drive. My husband and I have been together for almost 5yrs and still have sex at least 3 times a week*
I think it's very sad that SO MANY women have either no sexual desire, or so much sexual dysfunction.
I always knew my sex drive was very robust. It isn't hard to figure out when sex is being discussed. I'm surprised that my desire and performance are still every bit as good, or BETTER, than when I was younger.
Wow. I just joined this site for some positive discussions about life, sex, etc. I must say you are extremely offensive. First off, I am what you call a "mega churchgoer"...a born again Christian, and my hubby and I have an amazing sex life. Being a Christian does not mean you are a PRUDE.
i DeF see why you would think that. (Not) but I'm a churchgoer/born again/Christian and I have a very good sex life. A lot better then some of my friends who are not. I am sexually comfortable with myself (even tho I don't masturbate). And hubby and I have sex 3-4 times a week.
As for high sex drive, I think I'd be named number one.